Bitching at work

Re: Bitching at work

Sandra Taylor RVN, MBVNA — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 23:19:10 GMT

Remember I am on holiday middle of next week, so we are gonna meet up J x

Re: Bitching at work

Mac Feather — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 23:07:54 GMT

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Keep your chin up, you are much better than all of that nonsense. You'll be home soon x x x

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Gotta agree with Kirst. And we all need a wee nicht oot too methinx!

Re: Bitching at work

Mrs Dot Dot — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 22:30:06 GMT

Bitching at work................ Why do people do it?? There are many reasons...... please feel free to add any others after that I haven't included.

1) They are really insecure about themselves so want to make other people look/sound/feel worse than themselves so they look bigger and better (they think!)in front of their colleagues. It is a form of bullying.

2) They have sad boring lives and the only thing that livens theirs up is being down right nasty about other peoples.

3)They are of lower intelligence than you and don't realise the anyone with intelligence doesn't or tries not to involve themselves because they know how it makes them look ie sad, insecure, stupid!

4) It just makes them look like bitchy schoolgirls with attitude (appologies to schoolgirls without attitude!) when in fact they are supposed to be mature responsible grownups and should know better.

There are other reasons but basically most vet practices seem to be predominantly female orientated, especially among the nurses ( and before anyone kicks off about me being sexist, then I do realise I probably am being sexist in writing this post and that there is also bitching of varying degrees from the man as well!).

If you are the one being bitched about, just remember that you are the bigger, better, more responsible, more mature, alot nicer to know person... and keep remembering this... It is hard but stick to your principals and try your best not to get involved... I know it isn't always possible to keep out completely, but not all practices are bitchy and alot comes from higher up... ie your HN or PM or boss... If these people are any good at their job then in most cases things can be kept in check and at low levels but if they involve themselves, you are better off getting another job.

If you have tried talking to said people and not getting anywhere, keep perservering for a bit then put things in writing and they have to respond and/ or deal with it.

The thing with bitching is that long term it just gets you down... if you have other stuff going on in your as well, it just esculates..... you can end up being completely paranoid about it, and if you are a'thinking/ analyst ' type of person then it becomes a huge issue.

You need to find someone to talk to about it, give you some support... It's not you and how you do things, it is other people and their attitudes and ways of dealing with their OWN issues that is the problem.

Re: Bitching at work

Kirsty 2 — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 20:11:43 GMT

Keep your chin up, you are much better than all of that nonsense. You'll be home soon x x x

Re: Bitching at work

Lisa Whitehouse — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 19:37:00 GMT

Sooo true, i advise all my staff that if they want to say something talk to me with no reprecussions once its out in the open its better & i wont take anything personal if they have an issue with me

Re: Bitching at work

Kim Buckley — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 19:20:40 GMT

You spend so much time at work that it's so important to be happy there. Try and speak to your boss about it. Even just talking to him? might make you feel a million times better!

Re: Bitching at work

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 19:08:25 GMT

No they don't know, i don't think i could actually tell them. Ive got a week before i see my boss again. I need to do some hardcore soul searching, i feel abit of a mess and can't even tell Graeme how i feel deep down. I hate coming on here and sounding like a complete bitch but i have chatted with my boss on a few occasions and felt anything i said was turned around and made to sound fine.

Anyway thanks for advice, i know these "problems" don't seem to be anything in comparison to things others are going through its just me probably making a mountain out of a mole hill.

Re: Bitching at work

Mac Feather — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:36:59 GMT

Reckon maybe your HN has issues of her own. You never really know whats going on with people. However it doesnt help the way you are feeling.

Also you have had a pants time lately (thats an understatement I know) and sometimes when you feel low then it can be harder to deal with worky/people stuff.

I know you are a v good nurse- you are doing your best.

Does your work place know that you have had a hard time lately?

Re: Bitching at work

Kim Buckley — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:26:58 GMT

If it's really getting you down then get out of there and don't feel guilty. I was in a job where I was having issues with people and I didn't realise how upset and stressed it was making me. Since I left I feel a million times better! Life is too short! x

Re: Bitching at work

jodieandrews — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:20:26 GMT

I am very sorry to hear that you are experiencing this at work. Everyone has bad days where they get the blame for eveything, but it seems extreme for you. I just want to say that not all work places are like this and its usually just one bad apple that spoils the rest of the cart. I hope you can find an friend at work that you can talk to about this or even your boss if you think you can? Please don't let it get you down-you know your capabilities and what a good nurse you are, so hold your head high, turn the other cheek and let the moaning wash over you-just do your job the best you can. If it really doen't improve,then maybe a change would be best so keep your options open and keep looking for a job nearer to where you want to be, but make sure not to take your bad vibes with you if you do. Hope this helps? x

Re: Bitching at work

Caro Laithwaite VN — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 15:56:35 GMT

I have a simple rule. If you can not say it to a persons face, do not say it to their back.

Re: Bitching at work

Lori-Jade Fadden — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 14:12:09 GMT

Hi there. I know this might not be very helpful, but I think things are pretty sh*t all over at the moment. We are having terrible troubles at our practice with bitching, moaning and backstabbing.....It's like living in a soap opera! Everyone seems to dislike everyone else, walk-outs are common place. I don't know. 2010 seems to be the year of bad vibes! Maybe because those higher up are stressing about the effect the recession is having on their businesses, us lowly nurses at the bottom seem to be on the receiving end of quite a lot of crap! Anyway, I was just about to walk quite recently (the stress I was experiencing due to the working environment was making me physically ill), but I managed to pin my boss down, with the other nurses and have a damn good whinge. Nothing has changed, but properly venting spleen has made us all feel a heck of a lot better. I hope you sort it out. I took a step back and looked at my own situation (when I was thinking of jacking it all it and going back to my 25K P.A job!) and realised how much I LOVE the work, even if I don't see eye to eye with my work-mates. It would be such a shame for you, or anyone, to quit a job that they fundamentally love because of other people's stinky attitudes. Keep your head down, think about the animals and if it really gets too much you MUST say something to your boss. Good Luck :)