Problems you can't share...

Re: Problems you can't share...

Claire Cameron — Wed, 19 May 2010 13:07:42 GMT

I know how you feel Emma. but honestly, the guys on here are brilliant. I always bend their ears and it makes me feel a million times better.

You know where I am if you need to chat xx

Re: Problems you can't share...

Busy bee — Tue, 18 May 2010 21:25:00 GMT

Ah well done!! Just think how many people there are wanting to get work veterinary nursing - the other practice will fill the position in no time and probably have already forgotten about it!

You are obviously very good at what you do - just think about that! You can look forward to making changes (in a good way) to where you work now + you don't need to worry about how you will get on with new staff/clients, new computer system etc.

AND - think of what you can buy with your extra £££ every payday!

Re: Problems you can't share...

Steph Phillips — Tue, 18 May 2010 08:26:02 GMT

Good for you hon for doing whats right FOR YOU! your practice obviously values you and thinks of you as a very important member of the team.. just took this for them to work that out - like hte old saying goes - dont know what you got til you've lost it - they didn't want to loose you :) dont worry about the other practice.. I'm sure they got someone else lined up. do whats right for you, and dont worry about trying to make everyone happy because thats impossible! xxxx

Re: Problems you can't share...

Shelly vn — Tue, 18 May 2010 08:09:13 GMT

It really shows how much your practice appreciate you if they are prepared to fight for you. I think you've done the right thing and you shouldn't feel bad about the other practice. You have to do whats right for you.

Re: Problems you can't share...

Kim Buckley — Mon, 17 May 2010 18:00:11 GMT

Don't beat yourself up about it! Be happy that you are obviously appreciated by your practice

When I handed in my notice my boss was really off with me and when it came to my last day he didn't even say goodbye to me in person!

Hope you enjoy your new responsibilities!

Re: Problems you can't share...

Kerry Brennand DipAVN (Surgical) RVN A1 MBVNA — Mon, 17 May 2010 17:18:37 GMT

Hiya lass...do not beat yourself up about this you have to do what is right for yourself......which sounds like what you have done....which is good........you spend most of your life in work so you need to be happy sounds like your old practice have finally released what an asset your are to them which is good.......hope it works out for you

Re: Problems you can't share...

Emma Purnell — Mon, 17 May 2010 17:01:31 GMT

Some of the issues are a bit more out in the open now and yet they are still playing on my mind. I would love to get them out there and see what you think.

I have been at the same practice since I started vet nursing, did all my training there and am now qualified 18 months. I am frustrated by the pay and some of the decisions made but felt I had no say in it.

I saw an amazing job, looked fabulous, and I applied, had an interview and was offered the position.

I went back to my own practice, told them and told them my notice would be from the next day, the Friday just gone. Told all my family, cracked open the champagne and typed up my notice, sad as I was to leave the people and work there.

Arrived Friday to hand in my notice and was pulled in by the practice manager, offered a significant pay increase, further responsibility and was told how much they wanted me to stay. Gave me the weekend to think it over. Think it over? Suffer sleepless nights worrying more like.

Created spreadsheets with pros and cons, charts of pay and how they compared and how I would be seen in each practice.

I eventually decided to stay where I am as the pay works out equivalent with the travel, I now have much more say in what happens and there is the chance of a further move up the ladder in the near future.

I told the other practice today, apologised profusely and, quite rightly, they were not happy. I may have it all decided and sorted now, but I still feel terrible for it.

I do not want to name the practice for obvious reasons, I just don't know what else I would have done. Urgh. Really horrible last week

Re: Problems you can't share...

Mac Feather — Mon, 17 May 2010 16:22:56 GMT

Definately speak to someone-better to let it out than to bottle it up.

Dont feel that you are burdening anyone as Im sure we all just want to help if we can.

Take care, give me a shout anytime.

Re: Problems you can't share...

Kerry Brennand DipAVN (Surgical) RVN A1 MBVNA — Mon, 17 May 2010 11:33:34 GMT

Dont EVER feel alone lass.......we are all your friends on here......its great being a VN we have our own friendly community and we are all here to help and support everyone........hope your OK.....chin up I too have been through some very bad times and at the time your world is ending and you see no way out....but there is and things do eventually get better........I speak from experience....if you ever wanna talk please feel free to message me

Re: Problems you can't share...

Katie Murphy RVN — Mon, 17 May 2010 10:04:51 GMT

Please do feel free to message me too - it will make you feel so much better to talk to someone rather than face it alone. x

Re: Problems you can't share...

A Little TLC — Mon, 17 May 2010 09:46:16 GMT

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Feel free to message me. I'm very good at listening. Have a good whinge. Will make you feel a hell of a lot better! Chin up chuck!

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Me too, i mean three, four... oh ive lost count, all these peeps!! :) x

Re: Problems you can't share...

Steph Phillips — Mon, 17 May 2010 07:58:20 GMT

Aww Emma <<HUGS>> like everyone else, I'm here also too listen and offer help in anyway I can ... seriously babe, it's better out than in.. and as I always say - there is only so much you can bottle up, bottle it up too much and the bottle breaks - dont want to see you breaking you will feel better once it's out, and I'm sure myself & others have shared a similar experience to what your going through now xxxxx

Re: Problems you can't share...

Kerry Spain — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:59:58 GMT

Seriously just spit it out on the forum or in private, over the past year or so I've had family die, a twat of a boyfriend that has used me, work shiit... you name it... I've been there...

Re: Problems you can't share...

Emma Purnell — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:51:04 GMT

Bless you all, your all amazing

Re: Problems you can't share...

Steph Worsley — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:50:36 GMT

Hey Emma just to let you know I'm here for you as well, just drop me a line and I'm a fab listener!!!

Re: Problems you can't share...

Kim Buckley — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:31:42 GMT

I've had a lot of issues lately and just telling people and getting it off your chest makes you feel a million times better! Sometimes it helps to have an outsiders opinion aswell

Re: Problems you can't share...

Emma Purnell — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:26:51 GMT

Thank you all, I am always amazed by the fabulous responses from you all on here

I might try writing some bits down and getting an extra opinion on it all from one of you!

Re: Problems you can't share...

Vicky RVN — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:24:30 GMT

Don't be silly, it's not causing trouble you numpty!!!

Re: Problems you can't share...

Busy bee — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:24:17 GMT

Sorry to hear that - I know what you mean, although recently I seem to have managed to get on top of things (for the time being)!

I found writing things down REALLY helped. Maybe making a list of what is worrying you and try and look at things differently (I have recently seen a counsellor for some of my own worries and they suggest this too). The problems that you have - are they ones that can be dealt with or sorted out?

I'm sure you will get a lot of support and advice off this site, hope things start to get better soon

Re: Problems you can't share...

Kim Buckley — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:24:01 GMT

Feel free to message me. I'm very good at listening. Have a good whinge. Will make you feel a hell of a lot better! Chin up chuck!

Re: Problems you can't share...

Emma Purnell — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:22:47 GMT

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You can share with any of us if you ever feel the need...if you can't do it with people knowing who you are, you can always set up an anon account...let it all out hun x

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You may regret that I don't really want to pester anyone though, I don't like causing trouble!

Re: Problems you can't share...

Vicky RVN — Sun, 16 May 2010 20:21:03 GMT

You can share with any of us if you ever feel the need...if you can't do it with people knowing who you are, you can always set up an anon account...let it all out hun x