Its nearly been a year!!!! :(

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Jax — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 15:42:00 GMT

Sal the 1st, thankyou so much for your reply.. it really gives me hope!!!! Im sure i will see him one day, and agree, if they are not there i dont want to go!!!

Maria, your fluffy sounds like such a character.. And im sure in time when im ready i will start a new friendship with some other little kitty.. and i will know deep down im not replacing Henry.. he will always be with me!! Thankyou!!

STRVN i am so sorry to here about Pip and Alf... The picture of them is so lovely and must be so special to you.. thankyou for sharing it with us!!! I can complete understand what you went through and what you are still going through!!!

Christine... your pictures are lovely... very beautiful furry friends.. Oakley in particular!!

Thankyou so much everyone.. your all so kind to share your kind words and memories of your beloved friends with me!!! Take care!!! XX

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Christine Chapman — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 06:32:54 GMT

Hi Jax
I have finally uploaded a couple of piccies of my darling cat Oakley with Sophie who I miss deeply also.....

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Sandra Taylor RVN, MBVNA — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 15:31:55 GMT

I lost my favourite and most loved cat Alf 8 years ago, and it took me at least 2 years to be able to talk about him without crying, I can actually say although I love all my animals in equal measure, Alf held a special place in my heart, and when he died I actually ached, and was inconsolable with grief for him. writing this I actually have tears in my eyes.

This is Alf, sharing my knee with pip my little ckc, who sadly is no longer here either, they died within a day of each other ,both tragically I am sad to say.

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Maria Mahon — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 15:11:19 GMT

I'm sorry for your dear cat.

We own 2 ,but 'Fluffy'; a dark tortie Persian X (so beautiful) is very much mine. I've had really bad health the past 2 years and she always lies in bed with me, is always there when I'm upset and always sits by my bedroom door, waiting for me and almost asking permission to come in when I do. I've had her since I was 9 and I dread the day when she has to go. She's the one thing that's been constant in my life and I can't imagine not having her by my side.

Sending you lots of hugs, just think of all the wonderful memories and the joy he brought to you. Don't feel that you would be 'replacing' him by getting another cat, I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be so upset and you can begin the wonderful journey all over again with a new fellow.

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Sal the 1st — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 12:06:53 GMT

Jax , as a spiritualist I am a firm believer that I when I pass I will be met by those that have passed before me - including the animals that I have shared this life with. I have been asked this question many many times and my answer has always been the same - if animals arent welcome then I'm not bloody going!'

As another poster has already said you can never replace a loved animal but you can find another or another will find you. Time heals

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Jax — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 09:15:04 GMT

Noodle i am so sorry about your Pooch, I know exactly what your going through!! It just takes so long dont it?!! And i do know what you mean about remembering memories without crying.. at somepoint anyway!! Thankyou so much for your reply hunny!!! Take care too I will pm you sometime X

Hey Loobylou, Make sure you gain as many memories with your little old man, and trust me you will not forget him.. The girls at work gave me a gorgeous photoframe and they had put a picture of Henry inside it.. i cryed my eyes out when i saw it but im so thankful towards them, this picture greets me every morning and evety night... Aswell as lots of other pics of him!! You will never forget the special friends that have passed and i do know that it just takes a long time to readjust to life without them!!!! Take care hun X

Hi Christine, Make sure you upload pics of them.. i was going to put some more on here of my little man!! I think we can all appreciate them here!! Thanks for your reply.. I totally know many people feel the same as we do and i am really thankful to have recieved so many nice comments and advise!! Thankyou again X

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Christine Chapman — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 03:26:38 GMT

I understand your pain! I had my gorgeous cat Oakley put down just 15 months ago. He was truly an amazingly intelligent affectionate cat and I thought I would never love another cat again. About a year ago someone left a tiny 4 week old kitten on the doorstep of the clinic and I felt so sorry for the wee chap I brought him home when he was 8 weeks old. He is totally different to my darling Oakley and isn't all that intelligent but I love him. I still grieve for Oakley terribly but I know I will never forget him. I have wonderful pics and memories which are very precious. I keep his ashes in a drawer in my bedroom along with the ashes of my very precious labrador Sophie. Those two were amazing fur people but you can love again! Animals have such short life spans and every one of them deserves to be cared for and loved. I will have a go at uploading pics of Oakley and Sophie together on my own personal profile page. May they both RIP.....

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loobylou — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 00:16:56 GMT

I agree with everything that has been said and am sorry for your loss.

I have an old cat who I think is coming up for the time when I will need to make the decision to have him put to sleep. He is 16yrs old and I have had him since I was 10. I have grown up with him and he has been with me through lots of important times in my life. Im already worried about forgetting him and Im sure I will go through similar emotions as you have. I cant imagine ever replacing him but I hope that I can share my life with another equally special furry friend.

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Noodle — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 23:02:58 GMT

Awww Jax - everything you said was exactly how I felt when I lost my beloved pooch 18 mths ago... no, no one understands - they may be animals, but they are your soulmates..

Pooch was certainly my canine soulmate, and I have now came to accept the fact that she is gone, and I will never be able to replace her. I had a great big pooch shaped hole in my heart when she went, and I tried to fill it with a pooparoo.... it didn't work out, pup went back to the farm, and it took over 12 mths for the right pooch to find me, and fill that gap in my life.. but she did come along...

She will never replace Pooch, but I have accepted that, and memories of Pooch now make me smile instead of cry... tho I am crying as I type this..

I guess what I am saying is that time will help you heal... you will never get over the loss of your special friend, but they would want you to remember them with fondness rather than tears, and they will see you again at rainbow bridge

hugs, and please pm me if you need a shoulder

xxxxxxx

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Jax — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:25:21 GMT

Thankyou Steph XX

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Steph Worsley — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:21:37 GMT

Hi Jax, I agree you never truely get over this sort of thing, you will be suprised one day when another lovely cat will just happen upon you. I am a firm believer that you dont pick a cat they pick you!!

Take care hun xx

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Jax — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:13:19 GMT

Thankyou so much Charlotte!!!

We did have happy times.. he was such a cheeky little wotsit!! Thanks for making me smile this evening!!! X

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Charlotte says smile — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:08:22 GMT

Such a sad time Jax, I personally think you never get over a loss like that but learn to live with it. I'm sorry you are missing him so much it must be really hard. Just think about the amount of time you had with him and that you had the happy times you did.

You will never have a cat like henry again but you will find a cat one day that holds a special place in your heart just like henry did.

Take care of yourself.