No Holiday- It gets worse

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Vicky RVN — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:16:43 GMT

I'll keep my for you and your folks Caro. I hope it all works out ok.

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 17:57:15 GMT

Thanks Mrs Dot Dot crossing fingers, legs, eyes ... everything!!!

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Mrs Dot Dot — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 17:45:07 GMT

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Ok think we have found a place seems nicer than the respite care place before. When l mentioned that lots there was promised and never appeared.. baths physio etc the manager said don't get me started on them l went for a job interview, walked out half way through.

As to the care home the hospital wanted a couple of their residents from house my dad is going to went there. Apparently they escaped back within 2 weeks.

Not sure how much it is my folks may just be eligable for help towards it (not all) so crossing fingers, if not it is £410/week

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Good Luck with everything Caro..... Hope you get it all sorted and that it works out alright.

Happy New Year to you and your family

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 17:01:15 GMT

As to the care home the hospital wanted a couple of their residents from house my dad is going to went there. Apparently they escaped back within 2 weeks.

Not sure how much it is my folks may just be eligable for help towards it (not all) so crossing fingers, if not it is £410/week

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 20:16:00 GMT

I have 7 days (up monday) to get a place in a care home or take him home my parents have to pay full price. The 2 l had time to ring today 410 and 610/week have to make a lot of calls tomorrow trying to sort a place as everywhere closed on fri/sat/sun FFS.

Will look at a week in a care home then get him home with extra help in place. The 400 could get a lot of home help/ week and at least at home so one less hassle for me from my mum.

Not ideal with her ribs but it is a choice of 3 hell hole home for free.. pvt care a fortune or home with my mums bruising but extra help.

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 17:29:48 GMT

Forget leigh 2 repots one a friend who used to work for age concern.. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES to allow your dad there. Friend who used to work there DO NOT TOUCH so l now have to go to war with a bloody health authority.. wish me luck

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Vicky RVN — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 16:58:06 GMT

Hey, how is your dad now? Sorry to hear they've been so rubbish at hospital.

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 15:40:36 GMT

Well went to the hospital at 12 and going back just now. today and tomorrow is open visiting from 12 - 20:00

His move is probably on hold 2 nose bleeds last night one major for 1.5hrs after we had visited. Got there about 19:00 and he was covered in blood. Nose had bleed for about 40mins and they had not bothered to clean him so l did it. Oh and the nurses did not know how to stop a nose bleed so my dad had to show them how to pinch the nose. Do they actually teach human "nurses" anything?????

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 17:13:11 GMT

His neck is better he is off a drip. We understood he had a throat inf. but they kept saying a bladder inf..

Last night they said they would move him out today and going to alex court where he has been 2times before nearish the house idea.

I just got a call they wont take him there as he has not improved since his last stay there? FFS loads of people were worse than him. Now they are trying for a Bedford house in Leigh quite a drive away it is a bupa place. Wont know till day after boxing day due to holidays if he can go there. If not then back to social services to sort something.

My mums ribs are very painful and she is not up to looking after him but she is going to go ape when l give her the above news. FFS anyone got a VERY VERY strong alcoholic drink and some very very strong painkillers cause my day is going downhill fast.

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Sarah Nicholas — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 09:22:03 GMT

Hi Caro,

So sorry things are so hard, wish I knew what to say to help. Thinking of you.

How is everyone doing now?

big hugs

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Vicky RVN — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 23:07:56 GMT

How is your dad doing now?

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Vicky RVN — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 22:40:40 GMT

Oh Caro, you are your poor parents really are going through it over the past few months aren't you? Like Saskia said, i hope your mum and dad get well soon, and am glad your hub is staying at home to help. I'll keep my for you and your parents that things start to look up for you all

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Saskia Quinn — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 21:59:06 GMT

oh dear Caro, I have no idea what to say to you

All we can hope for is that both your parents make a speedy recovery and that you get some time to rest.

I am glad hub is not going on holiday as I feel you need support right now.

Hugs xxx

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Edwina [Eddie] Norbury — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:45:41 GMT

dont feel bad Caro, give him a big kiss.At least you will have time off together and be able to be there for mum and dad.Relish every moment with them.xxx

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 19:00:51 GMT

Hub has decided not to go on holiday without me so now l feel bad and am stuck in the middle. He says not to be silly and anyhow continet weather is awful.

Oh well life sucks and l hate xmas

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 18:59:40 GMT

It gets worse.

This m about 8 hysterical call from mum has crashed the car. I shot round she had decided to drive to my house and went to defrost her car. She is not a good enough driver for these conditions and l was going to arrnge later in the morning to collect her.

Somehow starting the car and stepping back to defrost it "set off backwards on its own" She was pushed out the way and fell hust back and ribs. The car jamed between fence post and rail on steps. The door was open and pushed backwards towards the bonnet. Took 4 neighbours and l 30mins to bounce push and shove to get it un trapped then close the door.

It will need l think new door and side panel over the l it is rumpled and possibly bent the door / windscreen pillar. I have confiscated her keys as she refuses to leave the car alone and not drive it. I have said if that door slams open as it took 2 people to close it it is going to do serious damage, esp if it hits someone or will cause her to crash. Let alone any damage to the chassi.

Then went to visit my dad, he is better pain wise still bad chest and fluid in upper airway. Then took my mum to a & e she did not want to go but l said we can see turns out was a 4 to 5hr wait so at 12 l said look if you have done a rib like you say it will just be paracetomol (that is what happened before) so if need be l will take her tomorrow evening or next couple of days and if bust we will have to arrange my dad to care home post hospital till she is well.

A woman with badly # rist/arm came in and sat by me after 10mins her husband tried to speak to her, her head was rolled back, she was white, sweating and her eyes rolled up and horizontal nystagmus. I said go tell them she needs immediate triage and treatment. He went off and came back tried to get her to stand up and l said wheelchair over there. A QUALIFIED nurse walked out and poked the womans arm said is the problem here... FFS!!! the woman screamed and copllapsd again. nursey went to get a wheelchair, THEN said to the husband take her to the car park to cool down. He had to go and stand with a patient in deep shock in the middle of the car park l was just gobsmacked it was unreal.

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les punton — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 14:34:12 GMT

aww big hugs, dont take any crap from the hosp, your dad should get the care which we provide in surgery! My bf was left on bloody sheets for 2 days then on the end I had to ask for a change of sheets and I done it myself!

Hope things get better for you xxx

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Charlotte Fitzgerald — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 09:27:48 GMT

Hi Caro,

I'm really sorry to hear your news, sending all our love x

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Steph Worsley — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 13:46:42 GMT

Aw Caro, really sorry to hear about your dad. big hugs!!

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Saskia Quinn — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 21:05:40 GMT

aw Caro, I am really sorry to hear that. I do hope your dad makes a good recovery and is able to get home soon. Sorry about the holiday too xxx

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Claire Cameron — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 20:56:09 GMT

Sorry to hear about your holiday Caro. Hope your dad is ok. Thinking of you x

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 20:50:11 GMT

Just back from the hospital. No fentanyl patch seems they decided not needed. He has been on fluids all day and a lot better. He can communicate he was almost unconscious this morning He says pain has more or less gone and has not felt pain like it. With luck he will be out asap as he always dies a bit more in the bloody hospital.

Am going to all being well see him tom and sun morning go in for 11am and wait for special permission as l am on 13-23:00 on the weekend.

Need to get him out of bed and walking asap or he seizes up. Oh and wee have to take blankets in as they don't have enough at the hospital. And he bled all over the sheet this morning from his iv when they were trying to put it in and they still have it over him tonight.

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Vicky RVN — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 18:57:30 GMT

Oh Caro sorry to hear that, lets hope the new year is better for you than this year has been Hope your dad is feeling better soon.

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Mrs Dot Dot — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 18:19:58 GMT

Really sorry Caro... for your dad and your holiday