Feeling low... depressing rant sorrryyy!!

Re: Feeling low... depressing rant sorrryyy!!

Vicky RVN — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 19:09:59 GMT

I'm pleased you can come on here a rant/talk when you need to. You need somewhere to be able to go and be totally honest about your feelings. I come on here and rant sometimes, because it's easier to do it here than face to face sometimes. Like others have said, don't try to put on a front for the sake of other people, let your emotions show so that people know how you feel and can be there for you. Don't bottle it up, it's not good for you.

We're all here whenever you need us x

Re: Feeling low... depressing rant sorrryyy!!

Saskia Quinn — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:01:45 GMT

Dont apologise for having a rant Lou. While christmas can be a great time of year for some, for others it can also be a very lonely, sad and depressing time.

Sending you hugs

Re: Feeling low... depressing rant sorrryyy!!

lolly — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:00:32 GMT

Christmas is such an emotional time of year! Every time you switch on the tv you get happy familes shoved in your face and if you have lost someone it feels worse.

I lost my dad 2 years ago and like you my dad loved Christmas. My last Christmas memory of him was both good and increadibly sad as I had him over to our house and being veggie was the first year I cooked turkey (!) but sad as he was ill with cancer and the day was a struggle for him.

However, I do try to remember the good Christmases and the fact that he loved it so much and he loved me so much that he would want me to enjoy it. I still write him a Christmas card (sad I know - still haven't deleted his phone number from my phone yet!) and I always put it on his grave on Christmas eve. In other words, I am trying to create 'new' tradtions to remember him and so that I don't feel guilty for enjoying the day.

Your dad loved you and loved this time of year so the last thing he would want you to be is sad. Easy to say I know, but I know I am right

Re: Feeling low... depressing rant sorrryyy!!

Sally Howe — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:21:55 GMT

Its better to get it off your chest than bottle it up

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loopylou711 — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:02:21 GMT

Think i had one too to drink last night! Was defo the nyt where i got it all out! Thanks for listening guys!

I agree mrs mac new year is so false! People pretend that this is the year of change and make so many false promises! I also hate when you hear from ppl you haven't heard from all year! Ahhh hate new year!

Am going to stop feeling sorry for myself and enjoy christmas lol!

Sorry for the depressing rant guys!

Re: Feeling low... depressing rant sorrryyy!!

Mac Feather — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 15:50:21 GMT

I personally think there is too emphasis to be jolly at this time of year and lots of emotions get magnified, I know what you mean about New Year- I hate it with a passion, very false time of year really.

I reckon you should be allowed to feel anyway you want, its ok to cry and I think its good remember loved ones.

Take it one day at a time and you will get there. And you can always come on here and get stuff off your chest.

Re: Feeling low... depressing rant sorrryyy!!

Lolita — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 08:26:57 GMT

I know what you are going thru, my dad died 10 years ago on 21st Dec, its was Christmas week and he had a massive heart attack, we were devastated, but like your dad, mine loved Christmas, its very hard at this time of year, but I always make a huge effort to get into the spirit, I know he would have wanted that, and wanted all the family to celebrate Christmas, needless to say, I usually get drunk one of the nights and have a good old cry and remember the good times, but you have to let out your sadness someway. So a big for you, you will get thru it, and if you want to be sad, be sad, you dont have to put on a happy face for anybody if you dont feel like it, times heals but you never forget and I think of him everyday, in some little way! So I wish you a Happy Christmas as I'm sure your dad would have wished you x

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Steph Worsley — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 07:49:17 GMT

huge hugs for you hun!!!

I kinda know what you mean, I am lucky and have got 10 days to spend with my parents this year and I am going to make the most of it as you never know how long you have left with the people you love.

I know it has prob been said to you a million times already, try and focus on the good times, would your dad want you to be upset and angry over his fave time of year? wouldn't he just want you to enjoy it and celebrate it the way he would have done?

There are loads of us here who are around to offer support if you want it, even if it is just on here and not phone/text etc.

once again hun