In Memory of a very special brother - Stephen

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S-J — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 13:35:56 GMT

thinking of you today

caro your poem was beautiful.

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A Little TLC — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 12:50:54 GMT

To your brother. Stay strong. x

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Emma Purnell — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 12:28:49 GMT

Also thinking of you, stay strong hon xxx

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Claire Cameron — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:52:05 GMT

Hi Paula

Just to let you know I'm thinking of you today

Claire x

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Mrs Dot Dot — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:50:26 GMT

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xXx Cat xXx — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 09:38:37 GMT

Thinking of you all today

take care

Tracy

xXx

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Louise B — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 04:32:53 GMT

Keep strong Paula and remember we are all here for you. xxx

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Sandra Taylor RVN, MBVNA — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:38:47 GMT

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paula morgan — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:12:49 GMT

Take care Paula, you are in my thoughts x

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:09:45 GMT

Lou as l am into spirits and Angels. I do not believe it was a coincidence about the pub or the music and you are right your dad is with you. That was his way of giving you a prod

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Saskia Quinn — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:06:23 GMT

thank you Lou - same goes for you too.

no worries about getting morbib - that is a lovely thing you said about the pub!! and the song too of course, not surprised it brought a tear to your eye, i would have been the exact same.

thanks for the offer to chat - i may take you up on that! xxx

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:04:32 GMT

I wrote this for a friend who's daughter had died at 15, about 20 years before. He had never got over her death and the following he said helped him to see life a different way. I hope it can help others.

AUTUMN'S TOUCH

I sit upon the cold grey rock beside the rippling pond.
The autumn suns last rays of warmth trip feelings in my soul,
a gentle smile beguiles my lips, a quiet chuckle escapes me.

Suddenly, my mind its laughter lost, as sorrow o'whelm's my heart.
My anguish like a seared brand upon a broken fool.
Tears colder than the hard grey rock flow from my saddened eyes,
For memories we never shared, for futures never gained.

My eyes look up to see Your spirit smiling down at me.
The breeze it blows your whispered kiss, my sorrow and tears start drying.
The sparkle from the rippling pond the twinkle in your eyes.
The cold grey rock Your stubbornness.
White puffs of clouds Your undying love flowing all around.

l stand, and turn, walk slowly home, still though You surround me.
Autumn, Winter, Spring and Summer,
For all seasons, for all time,
Your spirit walks beside me.

(CL vn)

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loopylou711 — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:55:59 GMT

Will be thinking of you 2morrow saskia. Hope it goes ok.

This year is my dads 10th anniversary aswell. I am not sure yet how i will cope if i cope that is. For some even reason after 10 years for me personally the pain and hurt is still fresh but i think it's because am doing so much with life i wish he was here if only to say well done.

Sorry don't mean to get morbid. I agree with steph seeing things that remind u of them is always comforting. Like last year on our holiday in Belgium and it was their fathers day, I saw a pub with the same name as the one my dad used to drink in and in that pub i heard the song we used to always listen to and dance too. Stupid but brought a tear to my eye thinking how close he really was to me.

Jus take it easy tommorow. Go through your speacil box and remember the good times. Take care and if you want to chat am only a pm away.

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Saskia Quinn — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:54:51 GMT

thanks so much to everyone!!

to be honest, will be glad when it is this time tomorrow night as it will be almost over, although the anniversairy mass isnt until sat eve!!

may have had a few glasses of wine by this time tomorrow so i will apolgise in advance lol!!

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Mac Feather — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:51:28 GMT

Thinking of you.

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Jenny Cook RVN — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:50:24 GMT

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You know where i am x

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haha of course i do Vicky!!!! thank you xxx

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You can't get rid of me xxx

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Same here, lol

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Vicky RVN — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:45:28 GMT

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You know where i am x

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haha of course i do Vicky!!!! thank you xxx

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You can't get rid of me xxx

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Saskia Quinn — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:43:02 GMT

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Will be thinking of you 2moro Paula, 10 years is a long time for hurt to remain but ,im sure stephen is watching down on you and family and is proud of you all in whatever u do or have done. Sorry for your loss.
Feel free to msg me on here of facebook if u wanna chat at all.

And to anyone else who has lost people close to them recently, thinking of you. xx

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thank you Jenny, I should have known you wouldnt be far away xxx

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Saskia Quinn — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:42:00 GMT

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You know where i am x

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haha of course i do Vicky!!!! thank you xxx

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Vicky RVN — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:40:00 GMT

You know where i am x

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Saskia Quinn — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:39:01 GMT

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thinking of you hun, you know where I am if you need to chat! xxxx

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true to form and never far away Steph!! thank you xxx

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Saskia Quinn — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:38:12 GMT

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Take it easy Paula thinking of you x

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Thank you Nick xxx

Steph, you are thinking almost the same way as i would. The lone swan is offering you comfort and bringing your mum back into your thoughts - thats nice.

Same as once i phoned a clairvoyant (not sure if this is a money racket or a real thing) she told me that anytime i saw a butterfly, to hold out my hand for it to perch on my hand - that butterfly, in fact would be a sign that my brother still loves me very much and is still part of my life and very aware of the goings on in my life.

I really did believe this until i was told otherwise that they were only in it for the money and were telling you what they thought you wanted to hear

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Steph Worsley — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:35:14 GMT

thinking of you hun, you know where I am if you need to chat! xxxx

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Nick Shackleton — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:31:38 GMT

Take it easy Paula thinking of you x

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Anonymous — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:30:57 GMT

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My mum would have been 57 on the 25th of this month. :(

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its never easy Steph, but i find that talking \about them and celebrating their life somehow helps us to cope - i know it does help me.

t\onight i laid a single red rose on Stephen's grave and i lit a candle - that in itself gives me comfort as i know i have not forgotten about him and he knows i s\till care\ and i think about him every single day xx

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that's a nice thought. I've only been to my mother's grave twice. it's in america so i can't visit it regularly. but i like to think she's with me elsewhere. for example: she used to love swans, just recently i was having a really hard time and i lost the job of my dreams do to not being able to cope with my health issues and mental health problems with anxiety. so i got this part time job helping a family out with their house and horses up the road. They live on this big farm estate with a huge pond, in the pond is this lone swan. she apparently lost her mate and has been on her own for the past few years. she comes up to me when i'm out in the yard and will have a nibble of some chaff and mix from the horses and sometimes she pecks my car. it's cute, like my mum watching me.