Help! feeling bullied

Re: Help! feeling bullied

Steph Phillips — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 21:58:09 GMT

omg thats awful :( ... what makes her think she can intimidate you!! What a b*tch!! - dont let her push you out of your work place.. she no longer works with you now, so thats gotta be a good thing.. As mentoned in a previous post, I think it's a good idea to note everything down.. maybe even print the emails off, save txt messages etc.. not sure what your employer can do seeing as she no longer works in the same workplace.. but, you can still contact the police and say she's harrassing you!

Hope things have worked out for you?? keep us posted - and keep your chin up and smile :) dont let her get the better of you xxxx

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zoeg — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 22:20:05 GMT

Hope it all works out for you xx

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caz vernon — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 22:08:29 GMT

Thank you very very much for all ur support and words everyone!

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les punton — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:44:28 GMT

have you tried confronting this girl? I had this once where my work life was being made extremely difficult and I nearly handed my notice in. I confronted her and its been absolutely fine every since................I know that every situation is different though.

thinking of you x

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zoeg — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 11:58:07 GMT

I have to careful here... but I am so sorry to hear about your problem and also some of the others on here.

My advice here is to log everything that happens, dates and times and who is involved. You need to speak to your top boss or practice manager. This is a serious matter and the person who is bullying can be suspended until the matter has been dealt with. You have to be careful, hence writing everything down as if the allegations are unfounded you can find yourself in hot water so it is so important that you note everything. I have been forced out of my job because I was accused of bullying by a bully....

Hope you are getting things sorted because working with people who make your life hell is not nice and like others have said can have a serious affect on your mental state in so many ways.

My thoughts are with anyone who is being bullied but you must stand up to them or you will find its you being forced out and not the the bully xx

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Sarah Nicholas — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 10:29:05 GMT

What a difficult situation. I can't really add much to what others have advised, you must put your health first - have your bosses done anything about this person?

I hope it all works out for you

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Mac Feather — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 22:33:29 GMT

[quote user="caz1001"]battled with depression before[/quote]

Im sorry to hear you are having a rough time.

Its good that you are aware of your mental health, there are many people on here (myself included) that have had or have depression so definately message any of us as its horrible going through this on your own. Dont bottle it up.

Take care.

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paula morgan — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 21:50:35 GMT

[quote user="Fruitloop"]

I understand how you feel exactly I'm being bullied by the PM and a VS at my work place, I to have mental illness (I am being reassessed in January) and physical illness as well which doesn't help matters. I posted a similar topic this week on here and the advise I received that I found most helpful was to speak to the head VN, I was going to do this Friday but she actually witnessed the behaviour and has sorted things so that I don't have to work this particular VS, when asked what was going on I confessed everything and felt better. So my advice is don't put up with it and bottle it all up like I did it only makes it worse, speak to someone and try to get the ball rolling (which you have done), as for this person, me thinks they are jealous after all they are only an assistant and you're a VN keep hanging in there for the time being.

Alternative, find a new place get a job and go on garden leave (ok so the weather sucks). Finally remember your health is the most important thing, everyone has told me this myself, I've only in this last month been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress, mild depression and low self esteem so I kinda understand how you feel but health comes first, if need be time some sick leave to look after you.

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I dont think thats very nice! Only an assistant!!!!! I am ONLY an assistant and am certainly not jealous of any my qvn workmates! I think that was a stupid statement to make, so please dont insinuate that all us mere assistants are like that!

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Fruitloop — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 20:02:48 GMT

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Vicky RVN — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 20:00:36 GMT

I don't have anything to add on top of what others have already said. I just wanted to say i hope things work out ok for you, and you know you can always come on here if you need people to talk too x

Re: Help! feeling bullied

Saskia Quinn — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:54:37 GMT

I agree with both Sal and Stella. Nothing really further to add that hasnt been already said.

It would seem that yes, she definitely has a problem - not you. For some reason, she cannot let go, sending abusive messages is no way to behave. Did something happen between the both of you and she has since behaved that way? Dont say on here of course, but just wondering why she is so nasty towards you?

And I definitely echo about the doctors - go asap before the depression does start to affect you again.

Good luck

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Stella Skelton RVN — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:23:38 GMT

Hi,

I totally agree with Sal. I've had depression before and I'm currently in my second bout of it now and it sucks so definately get to the Docs as soon as you can.

Regarding the bullying aspect i would have a sit down with the person in the practice who you feel most comfortable with and tell them everything. Really get the message across about this b**tch and explain that you want to leave - if you haven't already. They may not know exactly just how much this is affecting you. Also, now that this wench has moved on from your practice - if the bosses pull their fingers out - you shouldn't have to move on or be forced out of there - i understand you wanting to leave - but just don't let this woman beat you!! I hope it gets better soon and i hope you'll feel better soon. xxx

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Sal the 1st — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 16:44:36 GMT

if you are feeling depressed make an appointment to see your GP and see what they think(this is important).- and then speak to your bosses and let them know exactly how all this has affected you and see what happens, a hostile working environment may well make things worse. Just out of interest how were people when you handed in notice?

I had problems with depression earlier in the year and like yourself handed in my notice before visiting the GP. if you have another job to go into great but being depressed and being unemployed is not a good place to be - take it from one who knows. Dont let depression take a hold catch it early.