Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

Re: Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

Vicky RVN — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 21:21:57 GMT

I'm pleased your HN has seen with her own eyes what is happening, i think it's better than you having to tell her if she's seen it herself. Lets hope the meeting will sort everything out for you x

Re: Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

Nick Shackleton — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 21:20:28 GMT

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the best advice someone gave me when i was in a stressful situation was to do your job to the best of your abilities exceed all expectations and do it with a smile on your face. bullies only carry on if they think they are affecting you. be determined dont let the vs get the better of you hun.

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Sounds about right! I find that ppl who pick on others have something wrong in their own lives and have to take it out on someone else! I've had several people like this in the past!

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laurad — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 21:16:46 GMT

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Saskia Quinn — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 20:12:06 GMT

well done Fruitloop, very pleased to hear that. I hope the extremely immature VS is called to order.

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Fruitloop — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 20:06:29 GMT

I just want to thank everyone for their love and support it has really helped me. Just want to say I had to work with this particular VS on friday when the head VN was on reception and she saw what was happening! She's taken it into her own hands after I confessed everything. Turns out she's written down who is working with who and I won't be with this vet if can be helped and she had a huge meeting with the boss of the practice (I think it may be about the bullying!).

Re: Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

Mac Feather — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 20:51:51 GMT

Hi Fruitloop, sorry things arent good for you.

You must look after yourself, if you havent got your health its not funny. And mental health is oh so important. Give any of us a shout if you want to talk. I think its better to talk if poss as in my experience bottling it up is not good for you.

Re: Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

Fruitloop — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:40:30 GMT

Thanks for all the supportive advice guys, I actually feel like I have some hope now, and as you say my health now has to come first apart from other problems I have been diagnosed with IBS tonight (oh fun) which gets worse when i am stressed!

Re: Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

Vicky RVN — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 18:51:42 GMT

I'm sorry to hear the way things are for you, it sounds horrible. Your HN sounds supportive, so follow the advice of others and have a meeting with her so she can help you. I hope things get sorted, it's a shame if you end up leaving somewhere you like working because of one person being a totally unprofessional nasty person.

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Sarah Nicholas — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:51:50 GMT

So sorry to hear about your problems - have been there myself so I can relate. I agree with the suggestions above. You could also try asking one of the other nurses to sit in on any meetings you have so you don't feel so alone. BVNA have great advice on these situations for members too.

The others are right - your health HAS to come first. We all spend the majority of our time at work, life is too short to spend that time being made to feel the way you do.

big hugs

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loobylou — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:41:29 GMT

I think you should ask for a meeting with your head nurse, makes it more formal and maybe take some notes as to what your issues are.
Explain how it is making you feel and give examples of what is going on.
Then she should approach the boss/ practice manager/ vet with your concerns and hopeully get to the bottom of what is going on.

I hope you get something sorted, it would be a shame for you to leave your job because of this. There are plenty on this site who have been in similar situations so hopefully we will be full of bright ideas to help you.

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Fruitloop — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:37:32 GMT

Never really thought about that though my head nurse knows everything about what is going on with my health and will stand up for me without being asked when needs be, I may try that it might make things less scary.

Re: Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

loobylou — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:32:36 GMT

Can you talk to one of the nurses? Maybe they would be aorund when you tried to speak to the people involved to give you a bit of back up.

Its very unproffesional behaviour and you shouldnt have to put up with it, especially if your health is being affected.
Is there just one owner of the practice? Ideally you would go to your head nurse with these problems then they would 'fight your case' with management.

Re: Help! I feel like I am being bullied at work

Fruitloop — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:28:19 GMT

It's a tough one the nurses there are lovely and I enjoy working with them, I have considered leaving, but I don't drive and so I am restricted with where I can travel today and with the current financial market I keep at it for job security although it has meant my health has come second and I know thats not right, but I do look to see where else I can go.

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Maisy — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:23:43 GMT

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''shall we see if I can make Jess cry today''.

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She sounds awful! Do you enjoy your job at this practice otherwise? I've worked with some less than ideal people who like belitting others, and if it was happening by several members of staff for something such as personal illness, I'd probably just give up on it. There are other practices out there where you would be treated with more respect than that!

If you do decide to try and work through it for now, remember to consider your health first and foremost regardless of what others think.

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Fruitloop — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:17:25 GMT

sadly even the head vet/ owner had a jibe at me being off today, was going to speak to him but that went out the window. As for this vet, well if I try speaking to her she either just mutters or gives one worded answers, so when I don't speak she has a go at me, I do something a another vet requests and she has a go at me for doing it, she has even turned round to one of the others VNs and said ''shall we see if I can make Jess cry today''. I only know this because the other VN told me, as for the PM she's out the question she's best friends with this vet and also likes to try belittle me in front of clients, but thanks for the advice I will try put to practise what I can.

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Maisy — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:11:11 GMT

Poor you, sounds like you're having a rubbish time.

Is there anyone at work you oculd speak to such as your head nurse or a vet? What sort of things does the vet say to you? If you can, speak back to her or ask directly why she is speaking to you like that. No-one has a right to make others feel belittled/stupid or try to test how far they can get and if you don't feel you can speak directly to them, ask someone else who you get on with to see if they can support you.

One thing I would add though is if it has been recommended by your doctor that you have time off, follow this advice. You are going to feel worse healthwise and mentally, especially as the advice wasn't followed because of work and this won't help with your overall feeling of the practice.

Keep us updated and I do hope things work out for you.