What does the future hold?

Re: What does the future hold?

Sarah Nicholas — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 09:42:12 GMT

No worries, it'd be interesting to do

Re: What does the future hold?

Saskia Quinn — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 23:29:58 GMT

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No worries Once my home pc is fixed I'll PM you and we can try the cards out xx

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I will look forward to that, thank you x

Re: What does the future hold?

Sarah Nicholas — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 08:16:29 GMT

No worries Once my home pc is fixed I'll PM you and we can try the cards out xx

Re: What does the future hold?

Saskia Quinn — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 21:24:12 GMT

Thanks Rainbow

Tarot cards by email sounds very interesting...........!!

Re: What does the future hold?

Sarah Nicholas — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:23:43 GMT

Hi SaskiaVN,

So sorry to hear you are still having a tough time. I don't really have any advice other than what's been said I'm afraid, just wanted to offer my support - I could always do your tarot cards by email lol?! xx

Re: What does the future hold?

Mac Feather — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 13:30:41 GMT

Christmas kind of magnifies stuff, I am in a similar kind of 'what does the future hold' train of thought.

I dont think the enforced jollyness and emphasis on family that seems to surge over the festivity period helps anybody that is feeling even slightly low.

Re: What does the future hold?

Mrs Dot Dot — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 13:15:36 GMT

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Sal, my thoughts are with you also.

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Ditto

Re: What does the future hold?

Saskia Quinn — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 11:42:54 GMT

Thanks for all your wonderful replies everyone, it has really helped me reading them.

Sal, my thoughts are with you also.

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Sal the 1st — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 10:42:49 GMT

I know the feeling Loopylou - is almost a year since my father died - I am dreading Christmas this year

Re: What does the future hold?

loopylou711 — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 01:02:08 GMT

This time of year make us miss the ones who are no longer with us even more. I can't stand christmas as my dad loved it so much, all i can see is him fussing over presents the tree the christmas dinner and then arguing over what to watch. There happy memories but they sting because I wish he was here right now to do it all again! My dads been "gone" 10 years in May so a big year comming up.

When you next look around Paula at everything you have remember the hurdles you ahve already passed. You husband drinking, you husband leaving.... you overcame these and your boys have an even stronger mummy. Your brother is by your side helping you smiling at how much you have achieved hes with you every single second. If you lose the house it's sad but you will pick yourself up and find a new one and again come out fighting! You are a strong woman who have over came alot in a few months. Keep smiling and when you next look around give all your pets a big hug and keep your kids close! They are lucky to have a mummy as wonderful as you! If your husband walks out their life for good, then his loss you will raise two smashing kids without him!

oh and remember ur family and kids and all those pets will make sure you don't stop smiling from christmas eve right up untill the bells on new years eve. They are the ones who will get you thro this!

Now smile and be strong! It a little hurdle which you will overcome. Jut cos you can't see the light in the tunnel yet doesn't mean it is not there. Things will get easier!

Promise!

xxxxx

Re: What does the future hold?

Vicky RVN — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 00:48:27 GMT

Oh hun i really do hope things start to improve for you. Your boys have a mum who loves them to pieces, so regardless of what happens they will know they have all of the love you have to give. I can understand you will miss your ex but try to enjoy your christmas with your wonderful boys and the rest of your family. It may not seem like it now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and things will work out in the end.

Sorry i can't be of any help xxx

Re: What does the future hold?

Rachel Jayne — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 00:14:24 GMT

Sorry to hear you're having such a bad time recently, coming up to Christmas as well is awful.

I knew a lady who used to live round the corner from me, her husband left during the night on Christmas Eve, leaving her 2 girls alone at Christmas, is horrible.

I'm glad you have the support of family to help you through, fingers crossed things will work out for you

Re: What does the future hold?

Saskia Quinn — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:58:56 GMT

I actually feel sorry for my ex right now. We never had much contact with his family, even though they only lived a few miles away, his parents spent much of their time in the caravan miles away for most of the year, every year.

He came from a family of 8 whereas I was a family of 3. My family were/are always close, his never were. He is now renting a house not too far away from us here. His parents never bothered to visit us much, too busy wining and dining to be bothered about their family. He lived with his parents prior to renting the house he is now in.

He also has a sister called Paula - she is married with 3 children. We have been married for 10 years and my children are 6 and 3 years old. However, its only now, since the break up that my sons know they have an aunt called Paula - same name as their mummy. Makes me so annoyed

Re: What does the future hold?

Kim Buckley — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:46:14 GMT

He is the one missing out. Even though my dad had an affair and my mum hates him for having nothing to do with his children, she feels sorry for him because he has missed out on me and my sister growing up.

Re: What does the future hold?

Saskia Quinn — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:42:12 GMT

Thanks Kimbo & Mrs D

It does help to get your worries out in the open sometimes and hear what others have to say.

I am finding it very difficult right now, christmas is a lovely time for the children and I feel I am making more effort this year than I ever have done - but its all for my boys and they are loving the whole getting ready for christmas thing!

But for me, christmas will be lonely this year - I will miss my ex and sharing christmas with him. But, I suppose on the up side - I will be spending it with my children and my family, he is the one who is missing out I guess - even though that was his choice.

Re: What does the future hold?

Mrs Dot Dot — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:18:12 GMT

Hi Saskia... You've had such a rough time of things lately, for many reasons..... I have never been in a situation similar to yours so can never know truely how you are feeling, but as long as your lads know that you love them and are there for them, come what may, then things will work out.... You will have to let them go their own way at some point but you all still have many years left together as a family, and that's all that matters at the moment... Good Luck to you all... things will be ok, even tho they don't always seem so...... X

Re: What does the future hold?

Kim Buckley — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 21:43:55 GMT

My dad left when I was 6 and although he maintained contact for a while, I went for many years without seeing him and now I'm lucky if I hear from him at all!

All through this my mum has been amazing. We nearly lost our house but she managed to keep it and although we may have gone without certain things, I can easily say that I had a great childhood. Your boys are lucky that they have at least one parent who loves them loads and would do anything for them. Some kids don't even have one.

It may take time but things will get better