No idea what to do...

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Sarah Nicholas — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 10:15:05 GMT

Thank you for advice Rebecca, I am planning to get to CAB and try to sort things for myself - it helps to know there's light at the end of the tunnel are you sorted now?? xx

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rebecca dawson — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 14:39:29 GMT

I was in a similar situation to you had to rent only horrible place that would take animals and used to go to bed early to avoid hunger to which I could not afford to feed just so my pets were well catered for.

Put an advert in your local paper for accomadation that takes pets and a little white lie about how many I said 2 dogs 1 cat when actually had 3 dogs 3 cats they dont check and if they do say your pets sitting if really stuck pet retreat will hold your pets temporaraly for you to sort yourself out.

its like reading my own story there is light at the end of the tunnel and congrats on exams tough going with no support.

I am youngest of 5 and my whole family cant understand why I put the animals over myself.

contact cab for finance advise they can get finances put on hold for a while then you could find a better job locum for loads of pennies and meet new people

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Sarah Nicholas — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:56:14 GMT

<3 xx

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Saskia Quinn — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 15:32:44 GMT

I am glad to hear you are feeling better. Life can sometimes get us really down at times. Money is always such a worry.

With Christmas coming up, it is even more difficult. I am a (recent) single mother to my two beautiful sons and I am forever worrying about money - but as you say, life is too short, and we always manage, somehow.

Enjoy your week off, you deserve it and remember, we are always here xxx

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Sarah Nicholas — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 14:52:18 GMT

Hiya ,

I am doing a bit better, have a week off so that's helping alot. My PC is broken so can only check in when visiting bf. Money is still a worry but trying to remember that life's too short and they can't have what I haven't got - the important things in life are free as they say!!

Thanks so much to all of you for your support it's a huge help xxxxx

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Saskia Quinn — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:59:06 GMT

Hey Rainbow

How are things with you now? Keep talking on here, we are all here to help.

Please dont suffer alone

Paula x

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Sarah Nicholas — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:07:31 GMT

weird sorry my pc messed up there so wrote things out again lol

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Sarah Nicholas — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:06:08 GMT

I have no idea of the exact details on this actually. I asked what pay rise I would get if I moved out and was told 50p/hour which equates to less than my boyfriend had to pay in rent when he lived with me by a long way. I'm really not sure??

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Sarah Nicholas — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:04:02 GMT

I have no idea to be honest my work haven't been too clear on the exact situation - I asked what payrise I would get if I moved out and was told 50p and hour? However when my fella was living with me he paid more rent monthly than this adds up to??

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Fiona Leathers — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 14:54:02 GMT

A wee word of advice - check how much tax you are paying for the accommodation, it is a taxable benefit and sometimes it can be extremely expensive - possibly even cheaper to rent a place and get a payrise that way

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Sarah Nicholas — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 14:36:55 GMT

Thank you so much everyone. Just writing it on here has helped a little to be honest. I am worried re seeing GP cos I've had a less than favourable experience in the past with antidepressants. Also having just had bad health news it's not a place I like going to, but maybe you're right. I guess it couldn't hurt to try it out. I need to do something I don't want to get dragged down again.

I will def try writing things down I think it will help clear my head if nothing else .

Thank you all so much it helps to know I can talk on here too.

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Mac Feather — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 12:33:28 GMT

[quote user="mrs mac"]having a ob[/quote]

I mean having a job- my typing is pants at times!

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loopylou711 — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 11:34:17 GMT

I bet that feels better for getting all that off your chest!

You are not pathetic at all! We all have low points and well money is something which everyone worries about! I agree the above 2 posts, tell someone how you are feeling mum dad, close friend. Look for practice accomodation but failing that not sure where you live but gumtree has loads fo places that accepts pets! Dont worry about that! Your boys will give you a cuddle to make you smile and no matter what your family says you wont need to get rid of them! Just try and stay positive.

I agree writting feelings down and taking note of everything deffinently helps. well it helped me when i was depressed.

Just stay strong and remember their is a forum here full of people who are happy to listen and offer whatever advice! You are definently not alone!

Take care x

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Mac Feather — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 10:55:30 GMT

Im sorry things arent great for you at the moment.

I agree with Lolly, you are not pathetic. You should should give yourself a huge pat on the back for qualifying, having a ob and taking excellent care of your pets (I dont care what anyone says but pets are family.) Try not to think about other people right now, be kind to yourself. whether its having a long soak in the bath or reading a good book etc.

Definately try to speak to someone to let them know how you are feeling, you would be surprised how many people will be willing to help and how many people have experienced or are experiencing similar situations.

Have you been to see your G.P?

Definately keep your eye out for other places to work, Id say with regards to accomodation for you and your pets- if you dont ask you dont get, got to be worth a try.

Please give any of us a shout if you need/want to talk, dont go through this alone.

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lolly — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 10:12:33 GMT

nothing about how you are feeling is pathetic. I have suffered depression too in the past and if your like me you can spot the warning signs and will be really trying to avoid slipping back into it.

It's hard to look at all you have achieved when your feeling low, but you have qualified - which is a really massive positive - and you have your boys. Cuddles are one of the best treatment for depression and animal therapy has been proven to be benificial in all sorts of illness and traumas! Maybe you could start looking round to see if there are any other jobs that may be suitable? There are nursing positions that do offer a place to live with animals (hens teeth I know)! Easier said than done, but if you start giving yourself options then you won't feel so trapped even if you don't actually do any of the things you think about. Also, I know it sounds old and tired, but start writing things down, all your feelings and frustrations and then all your dreams and things you want to do. I was lucky when I was at my lowest and my dad really supported me and helped me, but I did have to speak to him about it. He said that he had known something was wrong, but didn't know what or how to approach it. I had felt that no one had noticed or cared. Maybe because of everything else going on your parents are assuming your okay and might not have noticed how very low you are?