just being neighbourly

Re: just being neighbourly

Sarah Nicholas — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 15:02:30 GMT

[quote user="Vicky C"]How bloody rude of them to laugh at you [/quote]

I know - after all I did for her cat too!!! And (shock horror) she never paid! Gotta love joe public - or so I keep telling myself. At least the original post on here shows that people aren't all bad!

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loobylou — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:26:41 GMT

I do think in this day and age people are scared to stop and help in accidents.
I heard of one man who got sued for breaking someones rib while giving him mouth to mouth. He saved his life and got sued for it

I also remember many years ago my mum had a car accident. It wasnt too bad and she wasnt injured but it was dark and raining and on a quiet road. A man did stop to help her but he had originally driven past, thought better of it and gone back to her. He was worried about stopping as she was a woman on her own and he was a strange man. He was worried in case he was accused of something.

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Saskia Quinn — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 22:56:00 GMT

[quote user="Caro Laithwaite"]

may well help in a strange way as you can help where you couldnt before and give your confidence a boost. Added to that your boet would be by you cheering you on.

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You have certainly hit the nail on the head there Caro, and made me think of such a situation in a whole different light, thank you!!!

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 22:47:51 GMT

may well help in a strange way as you can help where you couldnt before and give your confidence a boost. Added to that your boet would be by you cheering you on.

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Saskia Quinn — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 21:12:16 GMT

[quote user="kezzathecat"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

That story will stick with me too.

However, the doll wrapped in the blanket was clearly a 'ploy' to get someone to stop so the man could then get into the car. Not the same as a road traffic accident, however, down a country lane - could possibly have caused an accident i.e. car driving into back of stationary car.

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No sorry the story wasn't ment as a comparison to the original post its just someone said that a man wouldn't get out of his car in a previous post and I thought of that story so I thought I'd share it with everyone. Anyhow I'm glad it all turned out OK and everyone pulled together to help. It's a nice ending that no one was seriously hurt

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Kezza,

please, no need to apologise, I am sorry if I made you feel that way!

I was just commenting on your story, and the levels that some people would go to in order to commit a crime! I had said that I wouldnt really know what I would do in the event of coming across a road traffic accident as that was how my brother died, however, I feel that in the event of such an event happening before me, I would very likely stop and offer assistance, though I may be quite traumatised for a long time afterwards as it would bring back terrible memories for me.

I think its great that still hear stories about good samaritians, makes you realise that the world isnt full of nasty people after all!

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 11:42:31 GMT

It was good that someone did that but having been at the hospital many times over th past 2 years with my dad there. I doubt they could find a "caring nurse angel" to do the ********* job. Christ such items are non existent. The last ward he was on was best and even then was still only mediocre.

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Anonymous — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 23:04:27 GMT

I have heard loads of variations of the baby story but it is so scary that there are horrible people like that out there!

I was at the hospital the other day and saw someone 3 beds down vomiting into one of those paper dishes and a complete stranger went and searched for a fresh one for her got her a glass of water and cleaned her up after. It was so nice to see that someone could be so caring!

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Vicky RVN — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 22:06:39 GMT

The story of the baby is scary, will stick in my head too.

I remember my mum telling me about someone at her work years ago. A guy asked her for a lift, so my mums colleague said yes as she was going his way. She then realised what a stupid thing she'd done so she asked him to get out of the car to direct her out of the car park...then drove off, straight to a police station, with the guys brief case in the car. In the brief case was a knife and rope. Scary, so very glad she came to her senses, and that he did as she asked and got out of the car to 'direct' her

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Vicky RVN — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 22:02:41 GMT

[quote user="Rainbow"]

OMG! that is terrifying! - How lucky the other guy had seen what happened the alternative doesn't bear thinking about.

My fella wrote off my car around the corner from us. He got me and I ran around to wait for the police. My neighbours all watched from their houses as I was sobbing on my own in the rain waiting while my fella was in the police car so they could check if he was drunk (which he wasn't, just to be clear lol) - then one woman came out with her two teenagers, I recognised her as had worked really hard overnight wiring her cat's jaw post RTA that weekend, and they had a good laugh at me!

I think I'll move to where you are - it's a shame not everyone has a social conscience these days.

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How bloody rude of them to laugh at you

Re: just being neighbourly

Dippy — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 09:06:28 GMT

Hi Sal

Sad to hear that it happened at all but we've had 2 crashes outside our house whilst I've been in and I've taken mugs of tea out to the people involved and made phone calls for them etc (not seriously injured by the way, otherwise I wouldn't have given them tea!) I work on the basis that if I was one of them, I'd hope someone would do the same for me but I know what you mean about semi-rural areas - we're in a village on a nasty junction too.

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Kerry Spain — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:44:28 GMT

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

That story will stick with me too.

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Saskia Quinn — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 20:10:55 GMT

That story will stick with me too.

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loopylou711 — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:45:07 GMT

[quote user="kezzathecat"]

Thats a good ending

As someone said on a previous post about not getting out of the car, I worked with a locum nurse years ago who was from down south and she had heard of a horrific story... one which has stuck in my mind ever since and made me not want to get out of the car.

A young lady had finished work and was driving home down a country lane, she emergency stopped to find a 'baby' wrapped up in a blanket in the road, on closer inspection she found it was only a doll (she thought it had maybe been thrown out of the car window by a child).

So she got back in her car and drove off, a few seconds later a car sped up to her from behind, flashing its lights and beeping the horn frantically. She increased her speed to get away thinking it was some nutter trying to run her off the road. To cut a long story short she made it back home with the other car still in tow.

She legged in into the house and alerted her boyfriend/ husband, he came out of the house to find a man getting out of his car screaming 'there is some one in your car!!'

Basically what had happened was as she got out of her car to inspect the 'baby' in the road a man had got in on the back seat and hidden. The approaching car from behind had seen it all and he was trying to alert her to the danger. As they turned to look at her car the back door was open and the intruder had fled.

Sorry slightly off the original subject but I thought I'd share it with you all.

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omg thats terifying! To think what might have happened doesn't bare thinking about! Thats going to stick with me for a while!

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Sarah Nicholas — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:41:16 GMT

OMG! that is terrifying! - How lucky the other guy had seen what happened the alternative doesn't bear thinking about.

I think I'll move to where you are - it's a shame not everyone has a social conscience these days.

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Kerry Spain — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 13:03:44 GMT

Thats a good ending

She legged in into the house and alerted her boyfriend/ husband, he came out of the house to find a man getting out of his car screaming 'there is some one in your car!!'

Sorry slightly off the original subject but I thought I'd share it with you all.

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Sal the 1st — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 12:21:40 GMT

thought I would update this. Have just received some beautiful flowers with a card and chocs from one of those injured last week

I hope they are well on the mend now. Looks like I have been accepted back in the village

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Saskia Quinn — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:06:34 GMT

Thanks Freckle Its been almost 10 years, but still seems like yesterday.

As you say, difficult to know unless you were presented with such an event. I do think I would stop and help (at least thats what my conscience tells me I should do) but I dont really know. However, another way to look at it is, if that were you or I or a member of your family, wouldnt you like a passer by to stop and help? Yes, I would! So maybe, for that reason, I would try and put my personal issues aside, and stop and help - if that makes sense!!!

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Freckle — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:00:35 GMT

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

I really do thing I would like to stop and offer help, who knows?

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I think until you are presented with that situation, you will never know....

Typing my thoughts out loud as they happen btw......

I would like to think I would stop and offer help... I know I would stop and call 999, but whether I could actually help.... overcome my hangups about human blood, and not think about my family in that position (which I do every time I pass an accident already under control by police etc)

To be first on the scene.....I think I would do what I could - I have seen human emergencys before, and have stemmed bleeding, and reassured the patient. Got covered in blood too, which I would never normally do - usually feel sick at the sight of human blood....

I guess when the situation arrives - you do what you have to! I felt sick as a dog afterwards due to someone elses blood... but at the time that wasn't important..

Saskia - it would have been foolish to stop if you were giving birth - best thing to do -999! I know you know that, but just wanted to second you :)

I'm so sorry about your brother xxx

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Saskia Quinn — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:44:15 GMT

while I was on way to hospital in labour with Matthew, my (now ex) husband and I drove by a car on its roof and on fire. For obvious reasons, we were unable to stop as I was well on the road to giving birth lolol!! but that didnt stop me phoning the fire brigade alerting them - turns out they had already been phoned a couple of times by passers-by, however, no one seemed to stop! Turned out there was no one in the car, had been crashed and set on fire by thoughtless yobs!

On the other hand, I would find it very difficult to actually stop and help at the scene of an accident as thats how my only brother died, and its something I would never want to see again, however, on saying that, I do not know how I would react should I ever come across such a thing. I really do thing I would like to stop and offer help, who knows?

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:45:15 GMT

uggs that is a really ***ty corner in fact forget bend it is L shaped only the other way to what it shows here (corner at the top.. Glad that the village is working well after all Sal.

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Freckle — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:43:38 GMT

As said before, sorry to hear about the crash, but how ace that people all helped out! I would like to think it would be like that where I live - semi rural, but I guess you never know what your neighbours are like until push comes to shove.... sounds like you have a great bunch there sal!!

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Vicky RVN — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:13:58 GMT

It's so nice to hear there are still some people who are willing to help others in the world

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hissycat — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:10:37 GMT

Thats really nice that people were so helpful when I crashed my car in a remote area the car travelling behind me stopped a way in front afterwards, but the guy did not get out of his car till the police arrived some time later as he was too scared to come look! (it was a bad crash) He obviously hadn't seen me crawl out of the wreck of my poor car and walk off in the opposite direction !! (I was fine!) Another man driving past saw me and stopped, he was lovely and gave me his jacket and sat me in the drivers seat of his car with the heating on till the ambulance came. I never got a chance to properly thank him (was too shocked to get his name and stuff) but will always be grateful. I think anyone who stops to help a stranger should know that person will always be grateful to them even if they can't express it at the time

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Saskia Quinn — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:08:36 GMT

sad to hear about the crash, but how nice of the neighbours to all muck in and help.

Sounds like you will enjoy living there Sal

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loopylou711 — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:03:21 GMT

aw what nice little story!! just goes to show there are some decent people left in the world hehe!!