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Heather Christie — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:39:12 GMT

hehe, mine is building a scissor lift to get 2 cars into his single garage, building his own electric-controlled gate to go across drive, building his own balcony to go outside.... he's an engineer and doesn't trust paid workers to do do jobs right so he does them all himself *sigh*

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paula morgan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:31:13 GMT

Well i can sympathise with the garage part, my hubby virtually lives in his, I swear he must have the cleanest motorbike in history! Hopefully now you have spoken to him he will see sense, good luck x

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Heather Christie — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:26:41 GMT

Cuz i've always fancied men older than me and when i first started going out with him i never imagined he'd suddenly develop a compulsion to spend every waking moment (when not at work) in his garage building things and leave his daughter with me. I knew i'd spend quite a bit of time with her but never that i'd be put in charge of her cuz he'd rather be doing something else. I fell in love with him way before he developed the obsession with his garage/ neglect of his daughter.

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paula morgan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:20:51 GMT

haha tbh - to be honest am not bein funny lil.miss.hc but why arent you out havin a good time rather than having to deal with all this, you are way too young have this forced upon you! x

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Heather Christie — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:16:51 GMT

I can't cope going to college and then on weekends being forced to babysit. Plus theres talks about her moving in with us permanantly next year - making me the permanant nanny if things carry on as they are. I hope he sees sense.

BTW what does tbh mean?

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paula morgan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:56:25 GMT

Thats good, I think you did the right thing in telling him your not happy, its not up to you to look after his wee girl, I honestly dont think I would have been able to cope with a 12 year old when I was your age! I dont mean any disrespect to you at all, I think you deserve a medal tbh x

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Heather Christie — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:51:07 GMT

Don't worry scotlass i waited until his daughter had gone home before confronting him.

And thnx for ur msg Tanya, he usually gets over the sulks in a week or so....

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Tanya Traill — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:47:41 GMT

I,m 21 to I dont think its fair that you should have had to look after a 12 year old. I,m glad you have talked to him now. I hope he comes round and is not grumpy for to long.

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paula morgan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:37:58 GMT

I hope the wee girl isnt picking up on any of this Its not your fault, HE is the dad he needs to sort it out, if I was this wee girls mum I would not be very happy x

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Heather Christie — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:26:16 GMT

Have just spoken to him, told him it not fair to expect me to look after his kid (she's 12), i'm only 21 and having that responsibility forced on me is too much. Told him if it continues then i'll have to leave him and that it shouldn't be a problem if he wants to spend time with her as much as he says he does.

He is visibly upset with me and is sitting downstairs either in a thoughtful silence or in a sulk, i'm not sure which. Why oh why is life never simple?

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Lisa Whitehouse — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 16:52:51 GMT

think you need to be blunt otherwise make plans for when he has her & if he questions this tell him you thought it would give him 1;1 time with his daughter may make him realise what he is doing to you!!

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Tanya Traill — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:35:08 GMT

You really need to sit down and have a grown up conversation else nothing will ever change. How old is the child? It sounds like he is using you for childcare.

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Heather Christie — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:27:14 GMT

Am hiding upstairs in my bedroom at mo. Definitely need words with him. Hard to think how to put it without it turning into all-out war. My bf good at starting wars when i don't agree with him on something.

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bumble bee — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:24:15 GMT

make yourself unavailable or tell him!!!!!