I think I might quit

Re: I think I might quit

Mrs Dot Dot — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:52:49 GMT

Just do what's best for you... however hard, whatever anyone else says......if you do regret it later, so what? You probably won't if you are as unhappy as you sound....if you do, then don't dwell on it... you can't do anything about it. If things are really getting you down, affecting your life, affecting you mentally, then it is not worth it. Now you have some experience, it will help enormously for any future jobs. Many of us nurses, have moved and moved and moved, until we've found a job we are happy with...... just know that not all practices are the same. x

Re: I think I might quit

Anonymous — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:46:25 GMT

Thanks everyone. I don't really want to go in to it too much. I just needed to vent and to hear some people say that its ok to quit.

I feel like a loser for considering it, but I am really unhappy.

Re: I think I might quit

Steph Worsley — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:52:57 GMT

Hey Button, Sorry you are feeling like that,

Is it the whole job or is it the people? if you think it is just the people, dont quit on nursing totally find a new practice, if you need out sooner get some mundane job to get you out of there while you look for another nursing position.

We are all here for you!!!!

Re: I think I might quit

Anonymous — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:29:41 GMT

Thanks everyone. The thing is, I've been sticking it out for 7 months now and it isn't getting any better. I can't really talk to anyone at work, not really.

At the moment it feels like the only way is out.

Re: I think I might quit

Mac Feather — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:13:59 GMT

Have you got anyone in the practice to talk to? Or anyone to talk to outwith practice? Dont suffer on your own, please look after yourself.

Re: I think I might quit

albatross — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:10:40 GMT

[quote user="Button"]

Don't think I can cope for another 3 to 4 years. Think I might leave.

Since even just thinking about leaving, my chest isn't as tight.

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Button, you're training so try to gain as much experience as you can.If you do feel really down and that the place/people are making you ill or depressed and you feel you aren't in the right place to continue to the bitter endm start looking around but don't do anything rash.
Feeling you are in control of your destiny might make you feel more positive and able to adapt to the current problems or even to be able to change them in small ways.
I probably feel as bad as you do right now, but I've been stopped from training through no fault of my own, and that is so hard. I can't now see myself getting a trainee place, and so will probably have to give up nursing in order to try and earn a living somewhere soon, maybe until next year's new rules, maybe for ever.
But you try to keep on, and remember each week that goes by is a week nearer being qualified for you. The more experience you gain then hopefully the more others might want you (although with over 3 years experience that doesn't seem to work for me, but you could so easily strike lucky) and then it would be their gain and the current place's loss.
See how it goes, maybe things will improve, maybe you can talk to someone at the practice who is also feeling similar? or who would understand and be supportive?

Good luck, we're all on your side, we want you to acheive your dream - you are living it for all of us who can't seem to get anywhere......

Re: I think I might quit

Maisy — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 21:26:36 GMT

Work shouldn't make you unhappy and if it does, then you need to do something about it. Is it the actual job you don't like or do you think its more the practice/staff you are unhappy with (don't have to answer on here, just something to think about)?

When I first started out in practice I worked in some awful places where I would regularly be upset/hated going in to work and was always miserable, not nice! I thought a lot about scrapping nursing but the job itself I loved, but sometimes you do have to move around a bit to find a decent place to work. I know thats easier said than done when you're training, but by now you must have been in practice a good while so that will be a bonus.

If on the other hand you feel nursing really isn't for you, then at least you have tried it so you can think about where your next career will take you.

Re: I think I might quit

A Little TLC — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:04:13 GMT

I second that ^ advice!!

Re: I think I might quit

Anonymous — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:03:07 GMT

[quote user="Button"]

I don't really want to go in to too much detail but I just really don't like it where I am. Unreasonable people etc.

I feel on edge all the time and I often try really hard not to cry. I don't want to be working at a place that makes me feel like this. When I'm not at work I am at home worrying about it.

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I just did that for the last 6 mths. i cried too much :( sorry you're going through it too.

Re: I think I might quit

Debbie Summers — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:59:20 GMT

Hi Button,

Is there anyone you can speak to about the way you feel? Is there an impartial member of staff, HVN/Practice Manager/Partner? Sometimes it can be helpful to get someone elses perspective on a situation, who is there and knows the people concerned. I really hope you can talk it through with someone, as to be that unhappy is very demoralising, and will be affecting your life in a wider context.

Could you take a few days out (holiday) to give it some proper thought, consider all the options? I find writing down a list of pros and cons can help enormously if I need to make decisions as large as this. Take time - don't rush into anything you might regret.

In the meantime, be kind to yourself - is there something you enjoy doing, that would take your mind off of work? Try & give yourself something to look forward to every other day, and it will give you an alternative focus........remember we work to live, we don't live to work!!!!! (Though it does feel like that at times in this profession!!!)

Hope that helps, and keep talking!!

Debbie

Re: I think I might quit

Anonymous — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:50:19 GMT

I don't really want to go in to too much detail but I just really don't like it where I am. Unreasonable people etc.

I feel on edge all the time and I often try really hard not to cry. I don't want to be working at a place that makes me feel like this. When I'm not at work I am at home worrying about it.

Re: I think I might quit

loopylou711 — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:21:26 GMT

button whats making it so bad? Remember there are many practices out there it might be just this one that isn't the best for you stick it out it might get better? If not tell us on here we can help!!

Re: I think I might quit

A Little TLC — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:16:51 GMT

Come on girl, spill, the amazing VN site peeps can help x

Re: I think I might quit

Sally Howe — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 17:55:20 GMT

Don't quit on a whim. Please think about it.

Re: I think I might quit

chris beasley — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 17:48:58 GMT

Come on Button - we are all rooting for you,

try to stick it out. We need good nurses like you.

What problems have you been having?

Re: I think I might quit

Claire Cameron — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 17:22:22 GMT

What's made you feel like this?

Are you not enjoying nursing?

Good things come to those who wait, as they say.

Trust me, in my opinion the best things are worth waiting for!