What to do now?

Re: What to do now?

Saskia Quinn — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:17:39 GMT

Lou,

You know what Im going to say, dont you?

I also agree with what others have said about contacting victim support - you are a victim and they will help you, please leave this horrible nasty excuse for a human being and get out of there

You know my situation - alcohol fuelled also. I am now a single parent trying my best to look after my two young sons - on my own.

If I can do it - then so can you xxx

Re: What to do now?

Vicky RVN — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:48:07 GMT

Please try to get out of there, don't let him do this to you x

Re: What to do now?

A Little TLC — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:16:51 GMT

i second everything the others have said.

a leopard cant change its spots - thats a silly saying isnt it? i like leopards, so i dont want to compare them with that... hmm, waffling... sorry...

but itsa true. there are looooads of organisations out there who can and WILL help you. you are not alone. you have given him plenty of chances and he repays you by doing it again.

get yourself some help x

Re: What to do now?

Sally Howe — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 18:02:58 GMT

There are refuges all over the country. Victim support will point you in the right direction, they did with me

Re: What to do now?

loopylou711 — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:57:14 GMT

its a private rented property where we both signed a lease. Would council give emergency accomodation? MY max a month is 300 and that only leave me 200 to live on for bills and food and for getting to uni! But I have enough and need space!

Re: What to do now?

Caro Laithwaite VN — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:52:36 GMT

Who owns the flat? if it is a council flat then you may be able to take it over. Contact victim support at your police station for help and advice.

Report the b/f for abuse. However when the police turn up to arrest him do not fly off the handle at them and back him up. Make the decision where you stand and stick by it.

If you have made the decision he is a waste of air then what exactly do you give a stuff about what he thinks of you for drinking or not drinking. He is blaming you for his being a pathetic creature, standard abuse tactics. Back to above victim support, arrest for abuse (can still report him even if it was the other day) and speak to the council about accomidation.