I hate being stuck in the middle!

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Nick Shackleton — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 19:44:25 GMT

Just think of this song when their kicking off!!!!

It ain't nice been stuck in the middle!!!

For the older members:

www.youtube.com/watch

For the young-uns:

www.youtube.com/watch

I prefer the old-school version hehehe

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Caro Laithwaite VN — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 19:58:35 GMT

Quite frankly l would tell them you have had enough of carrying their guilt. Whatever happens tonight come tomorrow stand in prep and tell them and everyone around that if they want to sleep with each other fine but stop making everyones lives hell by behaving like 3 year olds.

They are not worthy of your friendship and as for colleagues lets face it they are not trying to do anything with the team unless it is with themselves so the hell with them. As to hate them they deserve it and are using all the old tricks to bend you to their way. Guilt being the main one.

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

VetNurse Anon a/c — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 19:00:00 GMT

I've not been on here for a while but just need a bit of a rant. It's still all a big secret at work (even though all of the nurses apart from the head nurse know!!) and I'm so miserable and down. The vet who is supposed to be my friend has barely spoken to me for weeks and she asked me at the weekend via text if things are ok between us. I said no and went on a bit of a rant about how unhappy I am with the whole situation and how the same is felt by all the nurses at work. This was all taken totally the wrong way and now think everyone hate them!! I've been made to feel like I'm in the wrong and I cried myself to sleep last night

The 4 of us are all meeting up tonight and I am absolutely dreading it! I hate this kind of thing and I just know I'm going to made out to look like I'm in the wrong. All I want is to be able to go to work and not feel like I'm having to lie all the time.

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Vicky RVN — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:40:34 GMT

Sounds like a good idea to me, it's not fair on you at all expecting you to keep it secret. Good luck!

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

VetNurse Anon a/c — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:34:03 GMT

Right I've just been chattting to the other nurse who knows and we've decided to write the "couple" a letter explaining exactly how we feel and then say let's all go out for dinner and talk about it. I'm feeling really down and dread going to work so enough is enough. If they want to be a serious relationship then people are gonna have to know. SImple. Ahhhhh!

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Saskia Quinn — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 22:39:02 GMT

I agree wholeheartedly with Caro.

And for what its worth, you shouldnt be worrying about it Anon, its not your problem and its not fair that you are expected to keep a 'secret'.

Same scenario in my old practice, I have left there now, but apparantely the only one who doesnt know is the boss - but hes not stupid

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Caro Laithwaite VN — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 22:07:10 GMT

Well they shouldn't have the affair then. Easiest way to let it out is to slink round corners making calf eyes at each other. ieeshh tell her to give a big hot smooch to her partner in prep area and then get on with life cause everyone already knows.

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

VetNurse Anon a/c — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 20:41:08 GMT

Another nurse told me she'd worked it out over the wkend and the bi nurse went mental and has said she wishes no-one knew. This isn't going to be out that quickly I don't think

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Sal the 1st — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 21:32:56 GMT

the chances are if you know about them and another nurse knows about them - then most people in the practice will already know (no matter how good you are at keeping secrets ) The people that dont know will probably work it out for themselves pretty soon. I do feel it isnt fair to be putting yourself and the other nurse in this position but consider the following - you know that at least 2 of the nursing staff know about this (yourself and the other nurse) but could it be that others know as well and they are also keeping mum? This 'news ' will work itself out

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

VetNurse Anon a/c — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 20:47:36 GMT

Yeah I do know the ex fiance and he has contacted me since they broke up.

I have been talking to the other nurse and it has helped but she's really upset because it was kept hidden from us for so long. Also the other nurse has been a bit off with her since she's got with the vet.

Thanks for all the advice. It's nice just to be able to talk about it. I just wish it was out in the open and then I wouldn't have to hide it any longer. Will just have to wait and see what happens I suppose.

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Freckle — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 20:40:49 GMT

do you know the nurse's ex fiance?

can you and the other nurse that know, not have time together, to talk and offload? a problem shared is a problem halved n all that

hugs - i know it isnt easy

xxx

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

VetNurse Anon a/c — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 20:36:51 GMT

They don't want it out in the open because they don't want the ex fiance to find out yet but if they want it to be kept a secret they need to be way more subtle than they are currently being.

We are a very close practice and I'm just finding it really hard to keep such a huge secret. One of the other nurses knows as she is best mates with the nurse and she is also struggling. In a way I think it's kind of selfish of them to put this on us. I know it's gonna be hard for them to tell everyone at work ( I don't know how well it will go down to be honest) but I am just finding it so awkward as it currently stands. I don't want to lose either of them as friends but I'm finding myself trying to distance myself and it's making me miserable.

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Freckle — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 20:19:23 GMT

actually my post reads awfully - if you and nurse are really good mates, then she should respect that and not tell her partner regardless of who that is...

... aghh - i know it can be so hard as vet practices are often mostly female, and the temptation to gossip/ bitch can be too much for some...

i am now brilliant friends with both the nurses, despite the fact i had to 'keep their secret' for a few months, and ward off rumours.....

Re: I hate being stuck in the middle!

Freckle — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 20:15:19 GMT

aww - i had a similar situation once, except it was 2 bi nurses.

if i was you i would just try and act as normal as possible, and refrain from speaking to your nurse mate about anything confidential - hard i know!

as for the gossip - just act dumb, and do not get caught up in it - just pretend you dont know about their relationship, until such a time as they 'go public'

hope that helps - if not then feel free to pm me