kids............huge headache

Re: kids............huge headache

les punton — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:21:59 GMT

well no more episodes! he has been out playing all day yest and all day today but telling us where he is HORRAH

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 14:04:29 GMT

God l wonder how l survived growing up. I would be out as soon as possible and back at dark. If l was on Tucky we would be out enjoying the bundu with no humans for miles around. It was just accepted you faced life and enjoyed it.

hell l remember mark and his snake collection 40 odd snakes including cobras and puff adders and his filks thought he only had a few harmless ones.

Re: kids............huge headache

Gillian Mostyn — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 20:50:10 GMT

[quote user="Bouncyfi"]I used to not let Hannah out because we're on a main road but I realised that I wasn't helping her. They never learn boundaries if they're always in a safe place & they need to become street smart to cope in the world!![/quote]

I remember that some of the happiest times of my childhood were spent playing with friends on our own. I would hate to deprive my children of that fun. I worry myself sick when the kids are out playing (mine are 6 and 4) but luckily we live in a quiet area, on a cul-de-sac, with loads of families about. And fortunately 'weirdos' that are strangers to the child are actually very rare. Most abuse happens within families.

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Steph Phillips — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:57:02 GMT

[quote user="Bouncyfi"]

I used to not let Hannah out because we're on a main road but I realised that I wasn't helping her. They never learn boundaries if they're always in a safe place & they need to become street smart to cope in the world!!

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I agree, to an extent though.. I would never let my boy out at his age - he's 6.. not because I dont trust him, it's because there are FAR too many weirdos out there.. and reckless drivers! My son was ran over by a car at 2yrs old and we very nearly lost him!! he got out of his dads hands and ran out.. luckily the car wasn't going too fast, but it still nealry killed him (coma for 10 days, brain damage/swelling, broken bones - the lot!) like I said, we were lucky it wasnt a 'boy racer' who knocked him down.. we hear of too many kids being killed on the roads!

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Fiona Leathers — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:46:29 GMT

I think its the same with any child, they intend to go one place and end up somewhere else, without thinking that parents (even step-parents) could be worried where they are. I don't think they do it out of callousness just head-filled-with-other-things-ness!

I have a rule with my daughter that she has to phone if she changes houses, I have no problem with her going elsewhere, just so I know where she is. We also have a rule that she has to be in when the street lights come on, which works pretty well, they come on before its dark, giving her enough time to get back. If she's staying at a friend's house and wants to be later than this, then she phones so I can come & get her.

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Steph Phillips — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:39:45 GMT

kids eh!! lol.. my lil lad is 6 going on 18!.. I dont let him out though.. I panic like mad if he's out of my sight for even a second.. instead I let his friends play in the house.. or if he's up his friends I want to know EVERYTHING about the parents first lol