Fighting cats....

Re: Fighting cats....

Arlo Guthrie — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:09:21 GMT

Crikey, calm down everyone, it's only an insurance policy (said in Michael Winner sort of way).

Someone asked me to lock this thread, which I will now do. But I have had a skim read of the thread. It's a very good example of how things can escalate for no good reason, just the consequence of the different way in which we all read and react to things.

I do have some sympathy with Lilypads. I guess I thought her first post was quite strong too. Still, I think she's taken a lot of flack she didn't entirely deserve. I mean, she's entitled to make her own choice about what weight she lifts, and whilst others can offer their opinion, she's welcome to disagree, and shouldn't be ripped apart if she does (any more than anyone else should).

Anyway, I will lock this thread as requested. But a reminder to everyone just how important it is to aways give the benefit of the doubt when 'judging' someone's post. You might not agree with them. You might not like their tone. In that case, take a deep breath, smile, and rise above it!

Re: Fighting cats....

loopylou711 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:55:19 GMT

[quote user="Lilypads"]

Loopy, I don't care if someone has been sat here saying the same thing for last 500 years. Don't u dare threaten me!!! I'll say what I want to say.

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thratening u? no am asking you to consider the way you act on this forum its small and a nice friendly forum, stop adding to this and let it go!

Re: Fighting cats....

Mrs Dot Dot — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:51:56 GMT

Disappointed in you Steph.................

Re: Fighting cats....

Anonymous — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 14:03:34 GMT

Sorry Dot I had to...

Re: Fighting cats....

Mrs Dot Dot — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 09:22:53 GMT

Hello Folks! What about if I make the last comment...... and no-one else posts anything after this....good idea, eh? I think so BUT it is just my humble opinion. Arlo obviously isn't going to lock it, so shall we all be happy people and leave it at this? We are all most of the time a happy, but very opinionated (Which I think is good!!!! It's what makes this site so interesting.....and good!....) bunch of peeps so can we pls keep it this way................................?

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:53:43 GMT

Loopy, I don't care if someone has been sat here saying the same thing for last 500 years. Don't u dare threaten me!!! I'll say what I want to say.

Re: Fighting cats....

loopylou711 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:38:02 GMT

[quote user="Lilypads"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

Lillypads,if the thread is getting boring then why keep adding to it? Do what was said above and forget about it. And, when you are on your way, think about the horrible atmosphere you have been creating, and above all, learn some good manners,

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Saskia I thought we;d got passed this

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are u intentionally trying to annoy people ?? Some ppl on this forum have been around for a long time i would mind watch what you say lillypads!

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:25:22 GMT

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

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Saskia I thought we;d got passed this

Re: Fighting cats....

loopylou711 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:24:59 GMT

what you about? will you give it up already!!! grr

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:15:00 GMT

This is hilarious! somene has actually transcribed this conversation??? Dear god!!!

Re: Fighting cats....

Saskia Quinn — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:05:21 GMT

Re: Fighting cats....

loopylou711 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:03:59 GMT

so as i said stop it! you are creating a bad atmosphere not needed on such a great small forum! You are being annoying! It is your opinion that you make sense but am not convinced! Now please stop adding to this!

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:01:58 GMT

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

[quote user="Lilypads"]

[quote user="loopylou711"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

[quote user="Nick Shackleton"]

Lily you really are starting to bore and grate on me!!! Especially editing peoples quotes and taking what ppl have said totally out of context! I totally agree with what both sandra and Paula have said. You obviously have a massive chip on your shoulder about something........ Has someone at work warned you about lifting dogs on your own prehaps?????

Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

Going back to the original post Frog/Cat Mad any news from the feline behaviour specialist???

Thanks Nick

Yes, it would be good to hear if Steph has had a reply

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Or better still what actually happened in the end royalsuper_fairy? Did they rehome or did the cats sort it out on their own?

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Saskia you are not starting to bore or grate on me... you bored me down a long time ago with your one-line ripostes that offered nothing to the original problem and just exacerbated an argument.

How can you come to the conclusion that I have a "massive chip on my shoulder"??? :) I hate chips. You know zero about me and you have psychoanalysed me!! Laughable!!

Wgat bis WITH some people?!

[/quote]Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

Disgusting attitude. I cannot quite believe how many people on this forum care to profess about advancement in VNing and then you get this ridiculously immature, unintellectual remark. What a shame some people let others down

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How is defending yourself when people have have a go for no reason a "disgusting attitude"?

My response to the ORIGINAL post was a response to a problem re cats fighting. I'm not a cat behaviourist. If I was a cat behaviourist I would want to know more about the cats and the client before I dished out advice beyond general adv. I feel that rehoming is adv that not on;y affects the cat being rehomed but the cats left behind and also the owner. It's an extremely difficult decision to come to and many variables need to be taken onto consideration.

I have apologised personally to frog and cat for appearing like I was mounting a personal attack against her. That apology still stands. I would like to be froeindly with people on here not attack them.

My advice was based on the sentence I read in first post. It read that feliway had stopped prob in house. I have likened feliway to giving ACP to dog scared of fireworks on bonfire night. The stress trigger is NOT removed, the stress response is. The fact that feliway helped is quite telling as it suggests that there is a stress in the house. I believe in working at animals living together.

As for my suggestion of adding a female cat. As I've said I;ve lived 30 years with a multiple cat household... at least 3 at any one time. I jow have 6 cats, 2 springers. The cats are 2 girls and 4 boys. I don't care what anyone says or has theories on... boy cats live better with at least one girl cat in residence. I'm not prertending to know everything about cats.... I'm simply giving my experiences and I think that experience counts for something. They don;t teach anything about behaviour on VN course. Maybe they should.

As for lifting weights.... surely that's up to the individual.

And as for the comment re me making comments too late at night for people to reply... we don't all work regular shifts!!

Over and out!

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Lillypads, you are quoting yourself here lolol!!!! YOU are the one who spoke about the disgusting attitide and now you are questioning youself????

[/quote] I do like to quote myself, I make a lot of sense. its so funny how people as stubborn as me will continue this thread, it is getting boring tho

Re: Fighting cats....

loopylou711 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 00:52:34 GMT

Lillypads can ou do me a favour? get over this thread! stop going back to it! we don't care anymore! am sick of this! this atmosphere that you create is horrible! We got your advice regarding the cats great now please stop adding to this thread!

am sorry but the atmosphere created by one horrible thread on such a small forum is really felt please just let it go!

Re: Fighting cats....

Saskia Quinn — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 00:42:51 GMT

[quote user="Lilypads"]

[quote user="loopylou711"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

[quote user="Nick Shackleton"]

Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

Going back to the original post Frog/Cat Mad any news from the feline behaviour specialist???

Thanks Nick

Yes, it would be good to hear if Steph has had a reply

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Or better still what actually happened in the end royalsuper_fairy? Did they rehome or did the cats sort it out on their own?

[/quote]

Saskia you are not starting to bore or grate on me... you bored me down a long time ago with your one-line ripostes that offered nothing to the original problem and just exacerbated an argument.

How can you come to the conclusion that I have a "massive chip on my shoulder"??? :) I hate chips. You know zero about me and you have psychoanalysed me!! Laughable!!

Wgat bis WITH some people?!

[/quote]Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

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How is defending yourself when people have have a go for no reason a "disgusting attitude"?

As for lifting weights.... surely that's up to the individual.

And as for the comment re me making comments too late at night for people to reply... we don't all work regular shifts!!

Over and out!

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Lillypads, you are quoting yourself here lolol!!!! YOU are the one who spoke about the disgusting attitide and now you are questioning youself????

Re: Fighting cats....

Saskia Quinn — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 00:39:03 GMT

[quote user="STRVN"]

[quote user="Lilypads"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

oh, ok Loopy, thanks for that, dont feel just so bad now glad I didnt partake in the soda lime lol

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yawn maybe u should partake in a bit of soda lime, can't make u any worse than u already are. What's your problem? Can you not have a normal conversation without resorting to making small talk comments in a bitchy manner? I'm disgusted with some people on here. Some people are really nice, genuine and have a sense of humour. The unfortunate few seem to take any new thing and twist it out of shape and use it as an argument, then relish in the arguments. What good is it doing? I don't care how long anyone has been a member of this site. aren't we all in a common ground? I'm glad I work where I work, don't get any of this cow-ish behaviour. It's disgusting. This is meant to be a common ground for us all. It obviously isn't.

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I think you will find that Saskia is one of the "nicer ones" and she should not be one of the ones you pick on.................., try me!!!!!!

Tell you what ,we have all said what we have said and given you good advice, which you choose to ignore, so instead of picking fights with "your bitchy comment" why dont you go read up on back injuries in the caring profession....... I hear its good reading and very insightful.... something you are sadly lacking in.

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something tells me you have more than one apology to give Lillypads

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 00:27:26 GMT

[quote user="Lilypads"]

[quote user="loopylou711"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

[quote user="Nick Shackleton"]

Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

Going back to the original post Frog/Cat Mad any news from the feline behaviour specialist???

Thanks Nick

Yes, it would be good to hear if Steph has had a reply

[/quote]

Or better still what actually happened in the end royalsuper_fairy? Did they rehome or did the cats sort it out on their own?

[/quote]

Saskia you are not starting to bore or grate on me... you bored me down a long time ago with your one-line ripostes that offered nothing to the original problem and just exacerbated an argument.

How can you come to the conclusion that I have a "massive chip on my shoulder"??? :) I hate chips. You know zero about me and you have psychoanalysed me!! Laughable!!

Wgat bis WITH some people?!

[/quote]Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

[/quote]

How is defending yourself when people have have a go for no reason a "disgusting attitude"?

As for lifting weights.... surely that's up to the individual.

And as for the comment re me making comments too late at night for people to reply... we don't all work regular shifts!!

Over and out!

Re: Fighting cats....

loopylou711 — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 11:58:12 GMT

Am sure someone said this already but lillypads make comments like the above on the forum at a time when people are around not in the middle of the night!

Anywayss Royal super fairy any news on those cats?

Re: Fighting cats....

dinkyd — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 11:19:21 GMT

[quote user="frog and cat mad!"]

Arlo

Please can we lock this thread, it's getting out of hand

Thanks

[/quote]I was going to suggest this ages ago however didnt want to stick my nose in lol!Its going no where and have to admit im getting upset with the atmosphere it is creating.

Re: Fighting cats....

Fiona Leathers — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 08:50:06 GMT

Where have you been Mrs Dot???? Its been going on for weeks now!! However I would advise not to get involved - just sit back and let the ranting continue!!! Helpful advice is completely ignored here!

Re: Fighting cats....

Mrs Dot Dot — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 07:38:42 GMT

Only just found this thread......interesting....!!!!!!

Re: Fighting cats....

Steph Worsley — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 07:38:15 GMT

Arlo

Please can we lock this thread, it's getting out of hand

Thanks

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 02:50:25 GMT

[quote user="Lilypads"]

[quote user="loopylou711"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

[quote user="Nick Shackleton"]

Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

Going back to the original post Frog/Cat Mad any news from the feline behaviour specialist???

Thanks Nick

Yes, it would be good to hear if Steph has had a reply

[/quote]

Or better still what actually happened in the end royalsuper_fairy? Did they rehome or did the cats sort it out on their own?

[/quote]

Saskia you are not starting to bore or grate on me... you bored me down a long time ago with your one-line ripostes that offered nothing to the original problem and just exacerbated an argument.

How can you come to the conclusion that I have a "massive chip on my shoulder"??? :) I hate chips. You know zero about me and you have psychoanalysed me!! Laughable!!

Wgat bis WITH some people?!

[/quote]Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 02:45:09 GMT

This wittering on is getting to be really boring now. FFS I'll rehome the cats myself!! Is this what we joined this forum for? wittering?

Re: Fighting cats....

Avril Louise Jackson RVN — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 02:37:35 GMT

[quote user="loopylou711"]

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

[quote user="Nick Shackleton"]

Paula I would disregard everything she has said towards you. cos quite frankly its a load of dogs bollox!!!

Going back to the original post Frog/Cat Mad any news from the feline behaviour specialist???

Thanks Nick

Yes, it would be good to hear if Steph has had a reply

[/quote]

Or better still what actually happened in the end royalsuper_fairy? Did they rehome or did the cats sort it out on their own?

[/quote]

Saskia you are not starting to bore or grate on me... you bored me down a long time ago with your one-line ripostes that offered nothing to the original problem and just exacerbated an argument.

How can you come to the conclusion that I have a "massive chip on my shoulder"??? :) I hate chips. You know zero about me and you have psychoanalysed me!! Laughable!!

Wgat bis WITH some people?!