How do you know when its time?

Re: How do you know when its time?

les punton — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 23:08:39 GMT

looby this made me cry!

I think every1 is right, you will know, last year I put my old dude down (staffy cross), I dont regret it at all, I know that if I was faced with it all over agin I would do the same thing.

He had CHF and arthritis but I put him down because of pancreatitis! The day b4 this he had been chasing birds along the beach ....this is what I remember.

Make sure you take plenty of photos. Its been 10mths for me and I still cant change my screen saver on my phone but lost all my photos on my pc when it broke, except the ones I had printed.

Thinking of you xxx

Re: How do you know when its time?

Vicky RVN — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 22:45:01 GMT

Hope you are ok xxx

Re: How do you know when its time?

Royalsuper_fairy — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 12:40:08 GMT

Big hugs to you Loobylou! Been close to tears reading this thread.

Your handsome boy is there and will always be there. Remember the good times you had with him.

Lots more hugs!

Emma xxx

Re: How do you know when its time?

loobylou — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 22:41:07 GMT

Thank you all for your kind words. Not had such a great day today, he didnt wake up til nearly 11 and he didnt eat til this evening. His breathing is a bit heavy too. If he's not improved in the morning I think I will be making the decision
He's looking a bit like an rspca case, he's matted up as not grooming and hates being brushed, cachexic, smelly breath. My handsome boy is in there somewhere

Re: How do you know when its time?

Saskia Quinn — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:24:38 GMT

Loobylou,

We often wonder if we will know when its time to let go of our pets. I am sure you know Rosie's story - my pointer. Well, her time will be coming soon also, she is 14. I dread that day.

A short while ago, I felt the exact same as you, wondering and panicking, would I know or would I be too selfish and just hold on that little longer....

But, now I have realised, and you will too, that when it comes time, Tibbles will let you know that he is ready to go. He will make the decision for you.

Sending you love and hugs, its a very difficult time for you xxx

Re: How do you know when its time?

loobylou — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 22:52:38 GMT

Thanks for everyones kind words, He's had an ok day today except he really struggled to have a poo cos his legs are a bit wobbly!
I think I'm just getting worked up, we've been together so long I'm sure I will know when he's ready. I hope

Re: How do you know when its time?

Fleabee99 — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 22:16:28 GMT

i hate myself for getting their too late

Re: How do you know when its time?

Fleabee99 — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 22:15:07 GMT

i can sympathise with you as i had a ratty with a uterus prolapse, but she was happy in her self until one day she bite me when i picked her up (which she never did before) because i think she was in pain so i knew it was her day, i was going to take her after my car MOT as i couldnt go without it and she died in my OH arms while that *** car was being seen, i didnt even get to say goodbye

i regret it everyday i still feel i should of just gone and sodded the car, but my vets was so far away i thought id get done for it it still makes me cry

Re: How do you know when its time?

paula morgan — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 21:09:03 GMT

I agree with everyone else, you will know when the time is right, you just do. Enjoy the time you have with your beutifull wee pal xx

Re: How do you know when its time?

Kerry Spain — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 18:11:39 GMT

I sympathise, my pud tat is 16yrs, hyperthyroid, renal dz, salivary mucocele thingy and abdo tumor. We've decided as a family the day she stops eating is the day we PTS. She looks like an RSPCA case at the moment fairly cachexic but otherwise ok and eating plenty. It's not an easy decision to make when they seem otherwise ok

Re: How do you know when its time?

Karen S — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 13:50:12 GMT

This is so sad. Sorry i have no advice. I dread the day when i lose one of my furries.

Re: How do you know when its time?

loopylou711 — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 00:55:37 GMT

aw i really feel for you. I was lucky, my cat in a sens emy little cat sparky died in his sleep. My mum and dad got him when Iwas just 3. We rescued him he was about 5ish and he was a nasty little thing. But for some reason he loved me and he sort of became my cat. over the years we became best friends, was there for me thro so much parents divorce, dads illness and just everything really. He would wait on mecomming in from school sit, on my knee when I was trying to study etc. He even developed a fussyness over me feeding him! we had a great bond!! We were lucky the only major thing wrong with him was his teeth and smelly breath!

Then one morning I woke up with him sleeping at my feet but he was gone :( knew it was comming though he was 18 :( even now 4 years on makes me sadto right this! Only just got 2 cats last year because the pain of losing my sparky was too much!

But looby I wouldnt worry just yet, the bond you have will make sure he knows to tell you when its time and for now enjoy the hugs and cuddles and any senior moments he may have. You will know and so will he don't worry just yet!! :)

Re: How do you know when its time?

loobylou — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 00:11:13 GMT

It seems so easy when I'm talking to clients about this, I know all the things to say. This day has been coming for such a long time, I thought I would be ready. Ive had him for such a long time and he's gonna be the first I have to make this decision for.

Re: How do you know when its time?

Anonymous — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 00:00:16 GMT

oh babe. i wish I could say something to make you more sure. but just remember what all this work with animals has taught you. cats are so funny about letting you know how they feel. i have a very well communicated cat. we have a great bond and I know she will tell me when she's ready. I'm sure you have that same bond with him. he's probably just as scared as you. be strong for him you'll see him again. :)

Re: How do you know when its time?

loobylou — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:57:06 GMT

Thanks for your kind words, I dont want to be selfish but want to keep him as long as I can

This is my beautiful boy 'Tibbles'

Re: How do you know when its time?

Vicky RVN — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:51:04 GMT

Sorry to hear that. I agree with Sal, you will know when it's time so don't worry. Enjoy the time you have left together. Thinking of you

Re: How do you know when its time?

Sal the 1st — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:46:06 GMT

- I feel you will know within yourself when the time is right. I have always worried about this with my own and there has always been something that has told me when they have had enough. Oscar my first 'practice' cat had been ill for a little while(kidney failure and abdominal mass) and one afternoon he just sat on the windowsill and stared and stared at me - and somehow I just knew the time was right to say goodbye. Bomber spent the whole evening on the bed the night before he died which was totally out of character for him (kidney failure again). Willow became very aloof when normally she was a very clingy cat (hyperthyroid and renal failure) Luci cat kept hiding in strange places and wouldnt come out (hyperthyroid and diabetic). I believe you will notice when the time comes