How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

VetNurse Anon a/c — Sun, 15 Aug 2021 20:08:42 GMT

Thank you all joined up :)

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

Ben Ogden — Sat, 14 Aug 2021 06:28:57 GMT

British Veterinary Union in Unite

worth every penny.

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

VetNurse Anon a/c — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 22:10:19 GMT

Quick question what union are you with?

I did not know we had any unions of any kind we could join.

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

VetNurse Anon a/c — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 20:56:09 GMT

Thank you to the last couple of replies they both made me feel much better.

I've spoken to someone higher up in the organisation and they seem to be dealing with the situation we will see whats happens at least I have put my side across.

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

Ben Ogden — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 16:27:33 GMT

Another example of poor Veterinary Management handling issues poorly and making small things a lot worse!

Advice from someone whos been in Veterinary over 15 years, join a Union.

It's best thing I ever did, want to have a petty sit down, out number me and serve me half baked arguments, sure, let me speak to my union rep. Once a rep comes in they can bat a lot of this nonesense away in moments and force your management structure to sort itself out, it'll also educate your management structure to behave professionally (talk about pot, kettle, black!).

The info you have given us here suggests you are being poorly managed/directed and it's you taking the fall for it. You ought to be directed, supported and taught to perform to your best and when you do wrong, be guided to learn and do right next time, not, I repeat, NOT be pulled over the coals with half truths, no proper examples, reducing you to tears and leaving you with no ability to explain yourself!!

I've seen this nonsense too much in the Veterinary World, for a Profession that 'cares', we sure do stick the boot in eachother at times!

I'm here for anyone that is in a similar situation, I've councelled so many through these sort of situations that I've lost count!

Keep your chin up, you may not be perfect, but neithers anyone else!

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

Arlo Guthrie — Tue, 10 Aug 2021 17:32:50 GMT

[quote userid="8705" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/problem-pages/32215/how-to-be-mature-about-being-told-off-at-work-and-get-over-it/177270#177270"]After this meeting they suspended me on full pay as they say they're worried about me as I cried in the meeting.[/quote]

Sorry for slow reply - been away for a couple of days. But .... WHAAAAAT? Suspended for crying? Occupational health? What on earth did you do? Throw yourself to the floor, rip all your clothes off and beat your breasts whilst wailing like a banshee?

Anything less than that, and I think suspension / occupational health sounds totally bonkers. Is it an attempt to label you, I wonder (or will it have that effect). Either way, I think you'd be well advised to consider all your options.

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

Elise Steyvers — Tue, 10 Aug 2021 17:23:39 GMT

Wow that is rough. I agree with Arlo. They need to be specific to you and tell you precisely what is wrong. Being completely open in a team is very important. It seems to me you tried as you contacted every one and asked for personal feedback. That is good. Now they should give that to you in a constructive matter and follow this up. Not suspend you and make you cry. Is there no head nurse you can speak to? I always aim for my nurses to speak to me openly and than work on it together. Hope you are okay!

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

VetNurse Anon a/c — Sun, 08 Aug 2021 21:48:02 GMT

After this meeting they suspended me on full pay as they say they're worried about me as I cried in the meeting.

I've got to wait for occupational health to call me and check I'm mentally stable which is a slight joke as they caused me to be upset.

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

Arlo Guthrie — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 12:13:42 GMT

[quote userid="8705" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/problem-pages/32215/how-to-be-mature-about-being-told-off-at-work-and-get-over-it/177256#177256"]Also when asked who said which part they would not give any names so I can't talk to anyone specific I've had to send a message to all staff asking for more feedback not in a nasty way just ping me a message. [/quote][quote userid="8705" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/problem-pages/32215/how-to-be-mature-about-being-told-off-at-work-and-get-over-it/177256#177256"]So as you can imagine I had a good hard look at myself and have decided to move forward and try better to change my attitude and try and work towards being a better person on the parts I feel are true. [/quote]

Well, I tell you what, I am 55 and I would find that situation very difficult ... and I think you have dealt with it admirably. Much better than I would have!

I think it wrong for an employer to give woolly criticism. What is 'an attitude problem'? What is 'not acting professional'? They need to say specifically, otherwise it's just not constructive.

In other words, 'you're unprofessional' sounds like just an insult, whereas 'the way you took so long to reply to Mrs Bloggins was unprofessional' is something you can work on.

Chin up. I hope things improve rapidly.

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

VetNurse Anon a/c — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 03:48:15 GMT

Hi all

thanks for replying

This list included not stocking up

not cleaning a table leaving it dirty

not acting profesional

having an attitude about certain jobs I'm asked to perform a specific deep cleaning duty it's not the job it's the way I'm asked to do it.

I've been told by my boyfriend I don't say anything but accordingly I have a face that tells people when I don'e like something which I do know about but you can't love every aspect of every job and I love the nursing and I have no problem with general cleaning as I would not a be a nurse otherwise as cleaning is a big part of the job its the way so much is expected of us.

I have an attitude problem.

General setting up for the next day.

But also no dates or times or cases could be provided for when any of this has happened.

I asked if it was every shift but they did not answer.

Also when asked who said which part they would not give any names so I can't talk to anyone specific I've had to send a message to all staff asking for more feedback not in a nasty way just ping me a message.

So as you can imagine I had a good hard look at myself and have decided to move forward and try better to change my attitude and try and work towards being a better person on the parts I feel are true.

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

DeannaLouise — Tue, 03 Aug 2021 19:23:39 GMT

Hi, you don’t specify what the “things” are but you did say some are valid and some are petty. I know it’s difficult but I would try and think about what you can learn (if anything) from each one, take the comments on the chin and move on, I know it’s easier said than done but dwelling on it will not help in the long run.

We all get pulled up on things from time to time, at the end of the day we are only human, but you can either decide to learn from it and improve or allow it to roll on making the following days rubbish too. I’m sure you are trying your best, have a good sleep and start tomorrow as a new day.

Hope this helps, my messages are open if you feel you want to talk further. Xx

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

apache — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 22:08:15 GMT

[quote userid="8705" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/problem-pages/32215/how-to-be-mature-about-being-told-off-at-work-and-get-over-it/177253#177253"]Feeling a bit rubbish at the moment.[/quote]

Happy for you to PM me, if that helps?

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

VetNurse Anon a/c — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 22:07:17 GMT

Some of it's valid and some of its petty but I just need to be an adult and rise above it.

It's been a really tough day but hopefully tomorrow will be better I don't think it could really get much worse.

Feeling a bit rubbish at the moment.

thanks for replying

RE: How to be mature about being told off at work and get over it

apache — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 20:49:08 GMT

Suppose it depends on context. Genuine things that you did wrong or being petty?

We all need to be able to take feedback. If you missed something or did something wrong - take it on the chin and make sure it doesn't happen again.

Sometimes it's about learning from the mistake as a team.