Problems...Please Help

Re: Problems...Please Help

A Little TLC — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 01:23:12 GMT

I have had this... I am still really good friends with the guy.

it is just best to be honest.... say that you are really really flattered, but that you just don't feel that way. But that you would still like to be friends and that you hope that it won't get it the way of that fact... It worked for me anyway. good luck :) x

Re: Problems...Please Help

Sandra Taylor RVN, MBVNA — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 00:19:15 GMT

I would take some time out as suggested by others.

I know you dont want to hurt him, so I would tell him you value his friendship but for now thats all you need. I would also make it clear that you have never thought of him in this way, and due to your sudden breakup, maybe this is not the time to be declaring undying love etc, but you do need him as a friend.

Re: Problems...Please Help

Anonymous — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 20:09:37 GMT

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Sorry to ask for advice, AGAIN.

From reading my last few posts a few of you might have known I'm having problems with the other half. Things are over and I'm ok, gutted but I guess life goes on. Now I was talking to my friend (male) who I've known forever, and he's e-mailed me today saying he's in love with me and has always been and always wanted to be with me. He'd move heaven and earth for us to be together.

I'm devastated. he's one of my best mates and I just dont know how to tell him I don't feel the same. I love him to bits as a mate, but nothing more. I really don't want to upset him I just don't know how thing could be the same again?

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Oh dear lord you poor thing!!! my advice would be to just tell him to chill out and give you a minute!!! leave a message at the beep and you WILL get back to him at a more suitable time. Maybe after a little time you will know what to say and he will be able to take it a little better. but honestly I wouldn't reply to him about it now! He should know you have enough on your mind and you just need some time to be on your own for a bit and not rush into anything! :)

Re: Problems...Please Help

Dippy — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:39:28 GMT

Tell him that you love him to bits but only as a friend and that the last thing you want to do is hurt him if he's felt like this for ages but how much you value his friendship and really need to know that you have friends around you right now. It's all a bit cliche but if that's how you feel, better to be honest from the start than let him think there may be a chance now you're single - have been on the receiving end of that emotion and it's not a nice place to be!

Re: Problems...Please Help

Steph Worsley — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:32:41 GMT

Hi as tough as it is gonna be you have to be honest with him, and say what you feel

Re: Problems...Please Help

Claire Cameron — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:28:38 GMT

I feel sick at the thought of upsetting, I also feel really awkward thinking about it

Thanks again guys!!!

Re: Problems...Please Help

Saskia Quinn — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:27:08 GMT

oh dear MissVN, it never rains but it pours, eh?

I do feel for you, it an awful situation to be in but you will have to let him down gently and explain as best you can that you dont feel the same.

Re: Problems...

paula morgan — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:21:11 GMT

Oh god Miss VN, what a dillema!!! I think you just need to tell him how you feel and hope for the best! Good luck x