Should I finally give up?

RE: Should I finally give up?

Alison Clare Hickman — Wed, 13 Nov 2019 19:20:16 GMT

Hello there, don't struggle on alone sweetheart and join the FB group 'Veterinary Spoonholders UK'. You will find a wealth of advice and support on there.

Like-minded and like-bodied kind hearted and listening. It's a wonderful forum for those of us that struggle with mental and physical health.

Hugs. X

RE: Should I finally give up?

luckylaura — Wed, 13 Nov 2019 10:21:40 GMT

So glad to hear that your HR were supportive and are helping you, thats such a great thing. You are definitely not alone! Good luck

RE: Should I finally give up?

VetNurse Anon a/c — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 17:21:31 GMT

Hiya

I am experiencing the same thing. When I read your post its as if i could have wrote it so your not on your own....

I finally qualified at 30 years of age after I long battle from the age of 16 to get into this profession and then finally made it and began to suffer with my mental health very soon after graduation. I have left as well to do other things and returned. I dont feel I want to do it anymore but dont know what else I want to do... i have gone from job to job and had countless sicknesses to the point I ended up losing my job and started to struggle to find work due to most practices now being big groups and not wanting to employ me due to reliability issues which made me feel worse and a vicious circle. I have locumed but often get panic attacks so cant face it! Its awful...

It has given employers the wrong impression of me I know but I spent years committing myself to this with determination and working my ass off struggling through a degree with no money etc...

I am at a cross roads now and not sure what to do for the best...

RE: Should I finally give up?

cutthroat_ethel — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 12:27:03 GMT

Hey,

Thanks so much for your quick reply--I. I spoke with HR this morning and they were amazing. I am contacting VetLife today to see if they are able to support me whilst I wait for counselling. In the meantime we are looking at alternative roles for me in practice, at least to give me a break from nursing to sort myself out.

I'm so glad your husband is feeling better. Like you said, it's going to be a long road, but knowing I'm not alone sure helps a lot!

RE: Should I finally give up?

luckylaura — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 10:58:18 GMT

I read your thread and felt a real need to reply to you. My partner has gone through similar issues and whilst he is not in the Veterinary field has struggled with a job he thought he loved and felt anxious and unhappy and struggled to go in most days, he has PTSD. I feel like you need to talk to someone in your practice (they sound like they are supportive but reiterate your feelings ) and tell them how you are feeling and that you are awaiting counselling, it is support you require and people to talk to.

My partner also could not go private but has just finished his final session of 9mths of NHS counselling and along with medication it has changed his perspective and outlook to life and his work and social life and although it is a long road and he may struggle for life the counselling has been his (and my) saviour. Please stay strong and keep talking to people.

If the job is an added issue then maybe consider a change for a while but in the same industry? Ive just spent 5 yrs in a pet insurance company but am about to return to general practice, so you are still using your amazing skills, just in a different area that perhaps doesn't have as much pressure as day to day Vet life?

Hope you find something that works for you and get the counselling appointment soon as this really was the turning point for my partner.