Losing hope

RE: Losing hope

Sara Benton — Sat, 04 Feb 2017 14:27:32 GMT

I totally agree with the advice you have already had from the nurses here. Most of us have been in a position that has been toxic at one point or another, sometimes things get better through discussion and action within practice, sometimes you just need to move on. Put yourself and your health first. People change jobs all the time, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says, if your job isn't giving what you need and is making you ill then something needs to change. We're all here to support you, whatever you decide to do.

RE: Losing hope

Jacqueline Gallacher — Sat, 04 Feb 2017 10:44:06 GMT

No job is worth your mental health and happiness. It's great to see you have support from other Nurses on here. Most of us will have worked somewhere that we found toxic. If you can, move on and don't feel you have failed in any way. And remember we also have this group of people for support too and it's totally anonymous. Good luck

https://www.vetlife.org.uk/

RE: Losing hope

Jennifer Henderson RVN — Sun, 08 Jan 2017 18:44:03 GMT

You are definitely not alone! Sometimes practice can be stressful if theres time limits/targets/lack of staff etc and sometimes people take it out on the people who are around at the time (doesn't mean its acceptable) it sounds like you are in the wrong position if there is no other nurses to help you and be there if you need them as a newly qualified nurse. It probably wouldn't be a bad idea to have a look around at some positions near you where there may be more nurses around who can help you. Your health comes first at the end of the day and if your job is making you feel anxious and upset then its really not worth it, theres a lot of decent practices out there you just have to look and find one :)

When i started a job a few years ago one of the vets was horrible to me, wouldn't let me do anything and treated me appallingly. I went home crying every night and didn't have the confidence to go out and get another job. She swore at me and said something nasty one day and I told her she has no right to speak to me like that and I wont stand for it anymore, she never did it again!

If you want to chat about anything, please do not hesitate to contact me :)

RE: Losing hope

sarahkat — Sun, 08 Jan 2017 18:04:57 GMT

Firstly you are not alone, we all care, we are in a caring profession. Is there anyone at work you can confide in and reach out to? Please don't let it make you ill, please go and speak to your GP, it really can help to speak to someone outside. Just because you have been at this practice for a short amount of time doesn't mean you can't leave for another job.

You have worked hard to become a qualified nurse, the right job is out there. It may even be where you are but nobody should have anxiety attacks before work.

I have just been bullied out of a job (6years), I tried to speak to the head nurse, practice manager and practice principal. But in the end I had to find another job because my life was made miserable because I had dared to speak up about patient care. I spoke to my GP and it really helped, he diagnosed stress. It didn't stop there I was then told not to return to work by email.

I am starting a new job tomorrow, please don't suffer alone, you can private message me.

Please take care and know that others do care X

RE: Losing hope

Sal the 1st — Sun, 08 Jan 2017 11:51:03 GMT

give me a shout if you think it could help - I am around on and off for most of the day. Send me a private message through the site

RE: Losing hope

kkatkatk — Sun, 08 Jan 2017 10:45:16 GMT

Hey, you know, its all going to be ok. you are the master of your destiny! You can help yourself and the good news is that you are already on the right lines so well done you! You cant change eveything in life but when something is not going right you can try to be heard which you have and if that doesnt work, which it hasnt, then you can either stick with it (which isnt a great idea for your mental health but somethimes people dont have the luxury of moving jobs, for many reasons) or you can say this isnt the right environment for me to grow and be healthy and happy and do a good job and you can move on. Its not to soon to move. It wont look bad. try to be positive and look forward, these things happen all the time in all work sectors, its not you! find a nice place to work. There are lots out there. They you can be happy at work. I would like to say though that if you can be strong and stick at it, and work on anxiety management for yourself, that things could pick up. The main thing is that you have options and you need to take control of your destiny, decide what to do and work at it in a positive frame of mind! x