Relationships when training

RE: Relationships when training

Erica Huggins — Sat, 02 Jul 2016 19:05:09 GMT

Work life balance when you are training is really hard. I moved away when i started my training and found it extremely difficult with being away from all my friends and family as well as trying to fit in going to see them on my weekends off.

All I can say is you know what is right and a good relationship is one that comes naturally. I found that out the hard way x

RE: Relationships when training

Gillian Mostyn — Sat, 02 Jul 2016 10:39:34 GMT

[quote user="Fiona2914"] if a relationship doesn't survive studying it would not have survived anyway [/quote]

Couldn't agree more. In the big scheme of things, there are usually far more stressful and difficult times in life than during training.

RE: Relationships when training

Fiona2914 — Fri, 01 Jul 2016 23:15:54 GMT

It is possible to study and have a relationship. It won't be exactly the same all the time but sometimes it won't change at all. It requires give and take you have to understand that it's not them that wants to train and sometimes it will be hard not being able to spend time with you when they want. On the other hand this is important to you and is only going to improve your life and does not last forever so if it's a long term relationship they should appreciate it's temporary and will make you happy (even when it's making you pull your hair out and need support). I personally feel (having studied a lot not just in VN) that if a relationship doesn't survive studying it would not have survived anyway so I wouldn't worry about the relationship whilst studying I'd just look forward. Good luck!

RE: Relationships when training

rebeccawright — Thu, 16 Jun 2016 15:10:46 GMT

Try and spend as much time together as possible doing things you have to do. For example, you have to eat, so why not have a meal together at night. This forces you to look after yourself and eat properly as well as spending time together, even if its just a microwave meal. Also you need to have some relaxation. Why not have a date night once a week or fortnight when you just spend the evening together, even if its just watching tv. This will be good for the relationship as well as giving yourself a break.

RE: Relationships when training

Sam Tidey — Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:31:55 GMT

I had just started a relationship with someone as I started my course... It was the start of a two year long distance relationship of over 200miles! we only got to see each other once a month and if we went on holiday. But we made it work and moved in together once I qualified :)

RE: Relationships when training

Keely Young — Mon, 13 Jun 2016 23:48:06 GMT

I agree with everything above. I write my own questions for myself for revision and that means me and my other half get to spend the evening cuddled up on the sofa - okay he's asking me questions and I'm answering them, but I'm revising and we're spending time together. You'll find a way to make it work that suits you both, but he'll have to understand that this is going to take a lot of your time for a while xx

RE: Relationships when training

Sam.23 — Mon, 13 Jun 2016 21:41:14 GMT

Sometimes I'll get my partner to help me study. He doesnt know a lot about this field so I find explaining/teaching the material to him really helps me. That way we get to spend time together without me compromising study time.

If your partner is worried about not seeing you as much, maybe have time where you put work aside to do something together. Like maybe do an hour or two of work in the evening and spend the rest of the time together

RE: Relationships when training

Tania Ford — Mon, 13 Jun 2016 13:40:09 GMT

I met the 'love of my life' whilst in my 2nd year of training and found it very difficult to concentrate on anything, especially study and exams! Thankfully he was very understanding and I just learnt how to 'juggle' things on a daily basis. I'm sure if he's respectful of you and allows you time to study, things will be fine. It may be that that he's happy spending time with you when you are studying? From my experience, so long as we were in the same room together, he and I were happy and thankfully I qualified without any relationship problems.

Good luck is all I can say, and if he's a keeper, he will support you as much or as little as you need it :)

RE: Relationships when training

Jellyfish25 — Sun, 12 Jun 2016 18:38:56 GMT

Basically I start training one day a week in Sept been with my current partner nearly two years but I made a silly comment about when I start training probably will only see him at weekends not thinking about the impact it will have. Since then he's said he doesn't want a relationship like that. But I've recently found our from him that it's just a commitment issue I been burnt badly in a past so am abit cagey anyway we've agreed to give it another shot.

RE: Relationships when training

Ems — Sun, 12 Jun 2016 17:52:40 GMT

I found it tough because I was studying away from home and with only my little bursary to live on, I couldn't afford to go home most weekends. Luckily, my now husband realised how hard it is being a student and working basically full time hours for nothing and we both just tried our best! It generally involved him travelling through to see me 2/3 weekends (if I wasn't working) and him staying in my student accommodation and phoning/MSN messenger every night!!

RE: Relationships when training

PJ Zurawel — Sat, 11 Jun 2016 20:50:38 GMT

On the other end of the spectrum I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend about a month before my OSCE's he just didn't understand why I wasn't spending as much time with him and always studying or working, he also said I was moody all the time but between the stress of work college and him it was no wonder! He was adding to the stress of everything by being ridiculously clingy and needy and I didn't need that. I imagine it would have been different with someone who actually understood the stress of exams and the work we do.

RE: Relationships when training

Keely Young — Sat, 11 Jun 2016 19:31:47 GMT

I'm extremely lucky in that my fiance has always been massively supportive and understanding - he'll happily test me on my VN stuff and understands if I need to work (which is a lot!) and he puts up with all the waifs, strays and injureds I bring home too

I can really understand that it can easily put relationships under strain - however, the stress and workload won't be at this level forever xx