I think I need help :(

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Anneke Kuipers — Thu, 17 Dec 2015 00:01:46 GMT

Hi Jenny

I've just read your post and was wondering how you're doing now? I know it's not the 23rd yet but have you perhaps managed to book an appointment with the doc sooner? And how is your partner doing?

i understand you are very worried about your work and colleagues and I really understand your anxiety but you need to worry about yourself first! Is it an idea to speak to your boss/management so they are aware of the pressure and stress you are feeling and that they are maybe able to help you cope as well?

you mentioned that your partner receives counselling once every 2-3 weeks, is it possible to increase this to once a week?

This is going to sound silly but what has helped me able to sleep better and enjoy sleeping again is new bedsheets! I bought some amazingly soft flanel (brushed cotton?) and love curling up under them. And trying to focus on anything else but work/worries.. I know this is easier than said than done though!

I hope all is well!

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Sal the 1st — Tue, 08 Dec 2015 19:24:37 GMT

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I second what Arlo had said actually. It's really nice to feel like I'm not actually alone, so thank you all for taking the time to reply and offering your advice. At least the wheels are slowly in motion. X

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jennyvetnurse92 — Tue, 08 Dec 2015 14:04:07 GMT

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Anne Watkins — Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:24:12 GMT

Definitely worth a thought isn't it. Hope everything starts to improve for you, feel free to offload on here if that helps! x

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Arlo Guthrie — Tue, 08 Dec 2015 09:54:36 GMT

Nothing at all useful I can add to all of this except to say how proud it makes me to see so many kind, thoughtful and supportive posts, and to think that this site helps bring you all together like this.

jennyvetnurse92, speaking as one who has lived with some very, er, challenging circumstances for the best part of 11 years (chronically ill daughter), I can only echo what others have said. Don't bottle it up; find someone you can sound off too. Someone at least one step back from everything. Don't be afraid to pick up the phone to VetLife; they are there for nurses too. In the course of writing various news stories over the years, I've had reason to talk to them about various things, and found them extremely helpful and kind.

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jennyvetnurse92 — Tue, 08 Dec 2015 00:02:22 GMT

I have thought about moving to be honest.

I think about my situation and which bits are adjustable, where I may be able to make changes. That's the only thing that keeps coming up.

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Anne Watkins — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 23:39:07 GMT

Working in a smaller practice doesn't ness mean less money. It's a thought anyway. It is difficult to find a doctor you can open up to, but you never know until you book that appointment. Might find they're the right person to speak to x

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jennyvetnurse92 — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 23:25:39 GMT

I'm worried about money, that's the only thing. I'm pretty well paid at the moment And I have a mortgage and lots of other outgoings etc.

Im hoping I find the courage to speak to my doctor. i don't have a doctor i know well or trust.

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Anne Watkins — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 23:01:27 GMT

Would a change of practice suit you better, perhaps a quieter one? Less stress, you can maybe get out of work on time and focus on yourself a bit more! I know what it feels like to suffer from depression and it can be a very dark place. definately talking to a close friend or family member would massively offload your worries, and yes seeing an understanding doctor is also a good idea. My GP has been very supportive of me and sees me regularly just to keep an eye on me. I really hope you can find a way to feel better x

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jennyvetnurse92 — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 22:21:30 GMT

Yes, we are extremely busy.

I don't really want to say where exactly - it's in the midlands x

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Anne Watkins — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 13:37:49 GMT

Whereabouts do you work Jenny? Is it a busy practice?

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jennyvetnurse92 — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 11:08:42 GMT

I have booked in but can't get a slot until 23rd Dec.

I feel like I need to tell them but they're really not that understanding. I personally have never gone to them with a problem but people have and all I've heard them do is moan or pick fault with what the person has said. I'd like to think that they would be understanding but im afraid they're not going to be. Perhaps an unfair judgement on them based on my current feelings.

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nikki.mits — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 10:33:55 GMT

I know exactly what you mean by getting so down you don't want to do what you know will make you feel better. Its a weird thing but we all do it. Just force yourself today to do it and yoga too (I also find this helps). you will feel heaps better and hopefully will help while you wait for your doctors appointment. I also think that explaining to your managers will take a weight off your chest as currently you are keeping all this too yourself (except in internet land). You spend most of your time at work, they should know at least a little bit of what is going on. Are your managers pretty understanding?

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jennyvetnurse92 — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 10:18:53 GMT

I did start meditating and going to yoga a while back, I've gotten so down and glum I can barely bring myself to do it now. I feel like I've lost all motivation. Being awake is hard enough to cope with.

I'm just about to call the doctors, although I assume the waiting time for an appointment will be quite lengthy. I just don't want to talk myself out of going. I am most definitely in denial about how bad this all is.

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nikki.mits — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 10:06:48 GMT

I know this may sound wacky but have you tried meditation. I started last year and it really helps me. I have bad anxiety and go through regular bouts of depression and I find this really helps. I think you should be open with your managers and explain to them what's going on. I know you don't want to drag your home life into work like but the reality is it is permeating your work life whether you like it or not. Life is crazy and busy and stressful and full of so much stuff that fuels anxiety and stress, that we can all be forgiven for going of the edge every now and then. You are only human and there is nothing wrong with feeling like its all too much and needing some time off.

Feel free to send me a private message if you need to talk.

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jennyvetnurse92 — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:51:34 GMT

I wish I could switch mine off completely. Be nice if we had a reset button.

Thank you for your help x

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jojofruits — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:49:52 GMT

I didn't have the energy or inclination to do anything else to be honest... it wasn't a conscious decision to sit and stare into mothing.. looking back I think it was my brain's way of processing everything.

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jennyvetnurse92 — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:39:23 GMT

Did sitting doing nothing help? I don't know if it makes me feel worse as I feel like I'm wasting my life away and i should always be doing something. I'm my own worst enemy.

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jojofruits — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:23:30 GMT

Bless you, I know how you feel having been through something similar last year.

I actually went to my doctor in the end and he signed me off with acute stress, did me the world of good, but most of that 2 weeks I spend sitting on the sofa doing nothing, the emotional equivilant of watching paint dry. He didn't prescribe me any medication so don't worry about that ( if you are) just go and see what they say?

This WILL get better and you've taken a big step in getting it sorted, you cant expect yourself to carry on like this

here if you need me for anything xxx

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Mark Hedberg — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:16:20 GMT

Also, Samaritans and other lines are not there only for people with suicidal thoughts; they have many calls from people who just need to talk to someone. They are nonjudgmental, caring, and they are there to offer support. They will offer advice if you ask for it, but their main focus is 'are you ok'?

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https://www.facebook.com/groups/305492562972252/

Veterinary Medicine: Discussing Suicide and Mental Health in the Profession[/quote]

It's a facebook group for vets and nurses, we are NOT an intervention group and NOT mental health professionals but we're a friendly bunch for someone who needs a shoulder!

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jennyvetnurse92 — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 22:58:43 GMT

Thank you so much, that means a lot x

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Celine — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 22:52:07 GMT

All good advice already been given, we are all here any time you need to sound off about anything, just holler x

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ereveley — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 21:10:54 GMT

Have a look on www.cavenity.co.uk also.

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FINNIGAN — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 20:55:35 GMT

Please honey go see ure doctor, I did and it was best thing I did xxx

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jennyvetnurse92 — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 18:52:54 GMT

I think I'm going to try and see the doctor. I find it quite hard to talk about things face to face, Which is probably why ive avoided speaking to my bosses about all this.

I am the HN, that's the only problem.

I feel like I could sleep for a year, the only problem is I can never get to sleep :(

Thank you guys for your replies, this has all made me feel a little better. X