feeling frustrated

RE: feeling frustrated

Sal the 1st — Thu, 03 Dec 2015 21:18:00 GMT

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Sal the 1st, those are some good points. I do know someone in the loop at the other vet, so perhaps i should sniff around a little.

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Doesn't do any harm to suss things out things are not always as they seem.

I was once invited into a practice to see if I could suggest anything to help the staff work together better. Was quite revealing. Half a dozen staff who were actually working quite well together, fairly close knit team, and two others. The two others were the exception to the happy band.The boss who was at their wits end because one or other staff members at various times were coming to complain and threatening to leave (high staff turnover) and one other staff member who never complained (to the boss at least) but was a real PITA to the other staff.

The staff member with the problem - I think somebody must of bought them a martyr kit (bit of velcro stuck to forehead and another bit to back of hand - google Loretta Laroche) for the secret santa one year and they were getting their moneys or should I say moanies worth. They weren't quite at the stage of uttering 'oh woe is me' but I don't think it was far off. I very nearly laughed out loud when they told me how how much people would miss them if they left - yes they would be missed for sure but I suspect the reason they thought they would be missed and what people would actually miss with their departure would be two very different things.

Next time I visited the practice it was like a cloud had been lifted, the martyr had left for pastures new - I really should have asked where they went, could have been onto a nice little earner . Its not as if they were a bad person either it was just a case of a square peg in a round hole but they were totally inflexible - it was their way or no way and sadly their way wasn't always what was needed or wanted

RE: feeling frustrated

Tally — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 18:04:28 GMT

Sal the 1st, those are some good points. I do know someone in the loop at the other vet, so perhaps i should sniff around a little.

I have given it some more thought though and i do feel that I need to speak to me vet and discuss my concerns and frustrations. After all, what do i have to lose?! perhaps after a discussion we can see things differently and things may change for the better. If they don't, i have at least had some practice at speaking out for myself and can move on knowing that i did my best.

RE: feeling frustrated

Tally — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 18:00:12 GMT

Yeah, we and previous staff have struggled but I do love the place and I am reluctant to give up on it. However I realise that if things don't change i will have to move on. :(

RE: feeling frustrated

Sal the 1st — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 02:03:43 GMT

wow there is a lot in that post. I can tell its something you have been stewing over a little while. Looks like you have made a good start on breaking down the main parts of the situation that make you feel so frustrated but it is possible to break them down even further and make them more palatable or insignificant.

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I am losing my sense of humour

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for me that is important - once my sense of humour goes on vacation I start looking for a ticket out. I know everybody goes through spells when things can be a bit on the downside but I only let it go on so long these days before I do something about it.

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The other problem is that the vet used to work at one of the practices i am considering and I am afraid that I could be bad-mouthed should they find out where i move to.

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just to turn it around a bit - how do you know that this person was a well loved member of staff at their previous practice? It could equally be that the previous practice gave a sigh of relief when they departed - its really not that uncommon.

I worked at one practice where we had an absolutely brilliant vet couldn't be faulted but as a human being I suspect they will never qualify. Lets just say we didn't share the same sense of humour. I had a word with the boss, (it was a two vet practice and explained my reasons for wanting to leave . I was a little surprised to hear from the boss that they didn't particularly like him either but wasn't sure what to do about it because he was bringing in a decent amount of revenue into the practice and 'it would be too difficult to get rid of him' I decided to move on. Was really sad to be going but just couldn't get along with this one person.

We crossed paths again not long afterwards when he came to do a locum at the practice I was then working at - turns out he had pinched one too many bottoms and upset one too many nurses (my replacement whose husband was built like a brick outhouse so I am told)

If you would like to rant in private give me a shout, don't stew longer than you have to

RE: feeling frustrated

Selena Carnell — Tue, 01 Dec 2015 21:37:40 GMT

sounds like you are writing about one of my practices, we had such a great team which was destroyed by one vet imparticular. they lost 6 members of staff between april and august, and treated a great new grad vet like a minion. at one point they used to listen to us, but eventually they stopped and it became detrimental to the care of the animals and also safety of staff, so i made a very hard choice to move away. I miss the team greatly but cannot return unless a miracle is performed on one of the vets. only you can make that choice.