BIG DILEMA !!

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maylane — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 19:13:25 GMT

What did you decide?

I guess you've already made your decision but to add my two pennies worth - consider taking the new job, I've been in your situation and all you will end up doing is regretting staying put a few months down the line when the promises fail to happen. Don't be too anxious about change, its a good thing and learning new things is exciting.

Good luck whatever you decide ;)

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julie cozze — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 12:22:40 GMT

I would go for it if I were you. You are obviously not happy there and if you don't you will only wonder what if. If it's any help I am also in my 50s and just about to start a new job, same scenario as you really. Undervalued and not happy. I am scared at the change too but am hoping that once I've settled in it will be a good move. Life's too short to be unhappy

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Donna France — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 09:39:28 GMT

Well done on the job offer, go for it. You will kick yourself if in a couple of months if you stay and you have not been able to make any changes and are as unhappy again. Theres no certainty this new job will be perfect but sometimes you have to try these things. I honestly didnt realise how low and demoralised i had become and it took the support of great family and friends to make me jump after so many years. Im still on friendly terms with my previous practice but they accepted my decision to leave, i too was promised everything would change if i stayed but it was too little too late.

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Sal the 1st — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 09:24:36 GMT

[quote user="Mark Hedberg"]Don't bite, it's a load of promises to get you to stay. [/quote]

yep that would be my take on it as well. I once passed up on a dream job in a dream location (for me) with a very good, reputable practice because somebody offered me the moon on a stick to carry on working with them in another location- turned out to be the biggest shyster going.

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Mark Hedberg — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 08:38:43 GMT

Don't bite, it's a load of promises to get you to stay.

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Sal the 1st — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 16:25:50 GMT

must admit I am a great believer in setting down the pros and cons on paper - sometimes it can make things a bit clearer on the route to take. The one time I did let my heart rule my head it was a very poor outcome, so I won't be making that mistake again

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fox1005 — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 15:43:58 GMT

I understand its a difficult situation but I've had same problem trouble was I believed my bosses and stayed. Which I regret nothing has changed at work and I have continued to look for a new job but there hasn't been anything as good as that last job offer - frustrating!!

Best thing to do is do a pro and cons list see what do get

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lemonearth905 — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 14:31:50 GMT

Hi, They sound like they are offering you a carrot hoping you will bite!! sounds like you've been used and abused!! ignore false promises and take the plunge!! keep us all posted

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Laura Ringsell — Sat, 07 Mar 2015 16:13:32 GMT

Echo Sal, too little too late is what I say and there is no point being paid a high wage to be treated poorly because that will continue and then you can't afford to leave. Move on and embrace change, once you have established yourself and your assets in your new place of work a pay rise may be forthcoming there too. Good luck

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Sal the 1st — Sat, 07 Mar 2015 09:53:21 GMT

well thats good news - but what stopped your current practice supporting you in the first place?

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FINNIGAN — Sat, 07 Mar 2015 08:18:55 GMT

Update,, hav been offered the job!! But on telling my bosses,,, they have asked me not leave, I'm an asset to the practise etc, etc, been offered a large payrise, more than I could earn elsewhere, a garuntee an promise I will hav a free rein in the changes I want to make an backup and their support!!!! Both parties need an answer by Monday!!!!!!!

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Laura Ringsell — Wed, 04 Mar 2015 06:33:50 GMT

Fingers crossed, sounding positive.

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FINNIGAN — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 20:32:54 GMT

Just an update guys,, spent day at new practise today,, was really good lots to learn, felt like a trainee all over again but was exciting, such lovly people n no stress!! Will no on Thursday wether I have been successful !!!

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FINNIGAN — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 17:40:59 GMT

Thanku , your story sounds so similar to what's happening,, I don't enjoy going to work , the people I work with are getting tetchy , my role doesn't seem to have any meaning to my bosses, can't thanku all enough, going to spend the day at the practise Iv applied to so hoping it will be a breath of fresh air and il get my mojo back,,, il keep u all posted as to what happens,, fingers crossed I won't make a twit of myself

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Calli D — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 12:10:49 GMT

Go for it!! I felt the same as you in a way. I was in my first practice for 10 years when I felt I needed to make a change but I was scared to move on as my practice had been very good to me but staff were changing, people were changing and the well oiled team we had was loosing its flow. I used to think that it was like a dance and we all new the steps but it started to feel like we were getting in each others way. The flow was going . I'd heard the horror stories from girls at college about generally not having a happy work environment so I was scared to make a change. It took another 3 years before I bit the bullet and by that time I wasn't sure if I even wanted to carry on nursing. So, I did something completely different for a few months and by chance found my way back to nursing with a new love for it. I have yet to put down new roots and have been working as a locum for a while now with some amazing staff and have been fortunate enough not to meet the crazy practices and vets that I was dreading from the stories at college, but I guess everyone has their own perspective and feelings from their workplace. Everywhere works differently and although I have been nursing a long time I am still learning from everyone I work with and they from me too.

Sorry for the waffle but as someone said - 'you only live once' so you may as well live happy. I have always felt that the day I wake up and think of going to work as a chore and a drain then that's the time to make a change. I did, and admittedly it hasn't been plane sailing all the way but it was the right decision for me.

I hope that whatever you decide, or have decided, that you will be happy.

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Laura Ringsell — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 07:33:16 GMT

Agree, agree. Go for it. Like many have said I have been there too. A new start with supportive colleagues is just what you need, and worse case scenario it's not perfect in every way you dream of you look again. But don't dont go back. Good luck and do keep us posted

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FINNIGAN — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 20:08:51 GMT

Thanku all so much guys you've all realy helped,, il keep u posted

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kaiarlo — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 13:51:15 GMT

I think you should go for it! Life is all about change after all..and it sounds like nothing is changing where you are now so if I were you i'd jump ship! Good luck! ;)

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Anonymous — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 09:24:43 GMT

I moved from my training practice after ten years and although I only stayed at the second practice for nine months (it was a maternity cover), it was the best move I made. I then went locuming, worked for the PDSA and now I'm teaching - which is something I thought I'd never do. If I'd never made the move, then I wouldn't be here.

What I would say is that if your next practice isn't what you thought it would be, don't look back on your old practice with rose tinted glass and don't go back there! Keep your eyes ahead, keep moving forward and take each opportunity as another experience until you find what makes you happy. I've been all over the country since I left my first practice and I've met some amazing new friends - so I say do it.

Don't be worried about looking stupid - we all have different skillsets and anyone worth their salt won't mind someone saying "you know what, it's been ages since I did this. Could you just watch me doing it". Chances are though, that you'll fit right in. I had these worries but it's only the faces and routines which are different - the animals stay the same, and you get used to drugs you haven't used before.

You only live once ! Good luck.

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Zoe Davies RVN — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 08:16:41 GMT

i really hope it works out for you.

as others have said not always about being head nurse but enjoying the job you trained to do. keep us updated x

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FINNIGAN — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 21:21:57 GMT

Thanku guys,, had informal chat today, so nice, going in for a day to see how they work etc an if they like me,, don't think I hAv ever been so scared in all my life,, Hav had such anxiety, feelings of sickness as so flipping worried il make the wrong desision, if I got the job I'd hav a 3 month probation which I think is the scariest thing as if it doesn't work out then I'm fucked!! Scuse the language!!!! Just scared of leaving a job I've been in for ten years,, but as every day passes Im more unhappy!! Oh god!!!! B

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nickyc — Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:53:55 GMT

Was in very similar situation.. with being in previous job for 12 years! Have been in my current job for 18 months and best thing I ever did.. No longer head nurse, better hours and valued as a staff member.. Not missing the admin and enjoying nursing again. Was very hard to make the decision and also lost confidence, but within 2 weeks realised I was actually good at my job, and it was the situation holding me back.. Would recommend doing a few trial days and see how the new practice flows etc.. Don't worry about the age thing, think of all the experience and knowledge you have gained over that time, which i'm sure your new practice will appreciate:-)

Goodluck

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FINNIGAN — Sat, 14 Feb 2015 18:34:50 GMT

Thanks so much guys

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Sal the 1st — Sat, 14 Feb 2015 17:38:56 GMT

try listing the pluses and minuses for each job and see if that makes it any clearer? Yes change is scary but it isnt always as scary as looking back in a few years time and thinking if only I had done...

There's nothing wrong with taking a step down the ladder either, the skills you learn climbing to the top of the tree are just as useful a branch or so down- I have been a head nurse a few times now and currently I am part time working beneath two VCA's as the only qualified nurse (long story which either needs to be re written or to end now, I was happy with it at the time but times change)

Only you can really decide what is right for you but if you aren't happy where you are your choices are carry on being unhappy or do something to change it - I know its not easy and not every change will work out as you want it to but the ones that dont work at least you learn from them.

Making a few changes myself at the moment

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Donna France — Sat, 14 Feb 2015 16:53:21 GMT

I had exactly the same dilemma last summer, been in practice 10 yrs, promoted to head nurse and got to the point of making myself ill as so stressed and absolutely no support form the partners I was also used as a scapegoat for a few incidents.

I left, it was scary but the best decision I made. I won't lie, I felt like a student nurse again starting in a new place but feel so much happier, I'm in a managerial role, working 4 days a week and haven't looked back. life is too short to be unhappy, try something new :)