Does anyone else have this problem?

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

Kayleigh Charman — Sun, 02 Jun 2013 10:26:20 GMT

I often have this problem when I AM in a mood, I find it hard to hide my emotions sometimes, so usually I think of something funny and focus on it until I can let my guard down again. Usually it involves my dog farting himself awake or people getting hit with exercise balls. It makes me smile every time!

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

Alison Clare Hickman — Fri, 03 May 2013 06:42:45 GMT

PML Sal!

At least he didn't say "Oooooh Matron" in a Kenneth Williams voice... scary.

Mind, I can relate. I got called 'Dear' by the driver on the bus the other day. NoOoOoOoooooo! What happened to 'love' or 'chick'??? Sad face, am old broiler now! Boo.

Ali h

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

Sal the 1st — Thu, 02 May 2013 23:14:44 GMT

thought I would share what a client said to me when he came in for evening surgery last night.

He said he would rather visit us than his doctors even tho it costs him money every time he comes to see us because at least our receptionists are friendly,can spare a smile and a few words and as he put it it 'you're not SS trained' - and then he went and spoilt the compliment by calling me 'matron'

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

KizzieB — Thu, 02 May 2013 21:30:37 GMT

Rather than grinning like a Cheshire cat all day try singing in ur head (or out loud if it takes ur fancy) try changing ur posture, but only do it if it makes u feel better!!!!

We spend enough time all day trying to make the patients feel better do we have to nurse everyone we work with too??? Anyway if ur a dog baring ur teeth is an aggressive thing to do ur just trying to keep ur patients relaxed & happy

I talk out loud to the animals all day!! If there's a client visiting their pet they think I'm bonkers!!

Relax worry a little less about what everyone else is thinkin!!

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

JaneRVN — Thu, 02 May 2013 19:25:50 GMT

I have a similar problem, but with my voice! Scottish accents can come across as really harsh, and I don't mean it! Esp as I have lived away from Scotland for a number of years. My accent can be cunningly disguised as other Celtic accents, but occasionally something comes out that sounds harsher than it should!

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am.coulson — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:29:00 GMT

I have this problem! "Mardy face" is probably the best description! Nothing could be further from the truth though. Once I start talking people realise that I'm not moody or mardy at all and am in fact very laid back and friendly! It does annoy me when people make remarks like "cheer up it might never happen...." Grrrrrr. I've seen pictures of myself when I havent been aware that a photo was being taken and even I thought "bloody hell, what a grumpy face", and it does seem worse when Im concentrating!

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Sally Seddon — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 07:46:31 GMT

With clients I'm fine because I can chat about random stuff and its only for a few minutes at a time so I'm very smily. Boss has told me I'm the only one who she doesn't worry about with clients. Never even thought abut my concentration face, probably look like I'm gonna kill someone!

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

SmegSlayer — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 00:14:56 GMT

The other day a bloke selling the big issue said to me "blimey, you look like hell, luv!". I was fine, a little tired after a day at uni and it was freezing weather so I was cold and wanted to get home but I'd done my hair properly and had make up on as well...

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Susan Jackson — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 23:30:59 GMT

I get this too, when I'm concentrating I frown and when my face is relaxed I have a natural down turned lips (not huge) so people think I'm miserable! I smile when I meet and greet clients but not through the whole consult and I certainly don't feel like I need to grin all the time. Saying that, at least I say hello, goodbye, please and thankyou unlike some people.

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

SmegSlayer — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 13:02:05 GMT

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I don't think I look moody but I also don't smile without a reason. I've just never been the type of person to smile for no reason and, frankly, I am suspicious of people that are always grinning.

I get told a lot to "cheer up, it might never happen" or "Oh FFS, put a smile on yer face"

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Oh the number of times I've been told this!!!

It does annoy me. it especially got to me in December last year and January. Mum died on Dec 21st and brother was in hosp with grade 4 pancreatitis from 14-27th december so, yeah, I was in a bad mood and tired and angry but it didn't affect how I worked, I just couldn't bring myself to smile.

"Cheer up, it might never happen!" Well it just did so you can take your judgemental comments and stick them where the sun don't shine!

Why would I smile for no reason anyway??? I smile when I'm happy, I frown when I'm grumpy or angry, but most of the time I'm neither of those just getting on with the everyday.

Would you like me to smile like a Cheshire cat while discussing your dogs' castration procedure with you or would you like me to take it seriously??

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

oconnoanan — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 12:50:06 GMT

You can't win! You get to my age and you have multiple wrinkles from smiling too much! Whats the alternative, start geting botox at 18 and don't have any facial expressions ever?

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

Sal the 1st — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 21:53:49 GMT

I used to do a lot of fundraising, events and meeting a greeting when I worked for a charity - some weekends my face used to ache from smiling, but the habit stuck and maybe I smile too much now?

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Sally Seddon — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 17:04:18 GMT

I even find myself carefully placing things down so that I don't create a bang, me banding things and my miserable face can only make people think I'm in a mood. Perhaps I should just be myself, it's not like I can help the way I look.

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Julie-Anne Wilson — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 15:58:31 GMT

I don't think I look moody but I also don't smile without a reason. I've just never been the type of person to smile for no reason and, frankly, I am suspicious of people that are always grinning.

I get told a lot to "cheer up, it might never happen" or "Oh FFS, put a smile on yer face"

It doesn't bother me enough to do anything about it though, so I just be who I be and people can like it or lump it :D

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Elerrina — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 14:51:56 GMT

I do! I totally have this problem, and people assume I'm either angry or rude and its so frustrating. It's like no this is just my normal face with no expression can't help it. It did used to get to me but now i'm just like well i can't change it if people want to judge me let them and ill just get on with my job lol

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

Sally Seddon — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 13:33:58 GMT

I think my problem is that my face looks so stern. Maybe I should just smile all day long. Hope things go ok for your boyf

Re: Does anyone else have this problem?

PHA86 — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 10:56:36 GMT

My boyfriend has this problem, and it's been a little detrimental to him at work for the past 12 months. Anyway, he starts a new project on Monday, so hopefully he can soften his mardy appearance from time to time, and communicate to his team using language that will show he's not as miserable as he appears!