Yet another fed up post!

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Mac Feather — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 13:18:03 GMT

ive been 20 yrs since i first began vet nursing so ive got mixed emotions about it all but i couldnt go on. My last day is this thursday..........not sure how im going to feel- will just have to get on with it.

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Sally Howe — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 13:02:58 GMT

Thank you Heather, the picture is my show bitch and her pup. She is now 6 months old (she was 10 weeks old on the piccie) and is starting her showing career on Good Friday.

I have been in veterinary nursing since 1992. It's a sad day when us oldies feel we have to leave this once upon a time lovely career

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Mac Feather — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 12:33:04 GMT

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I am feeling the same about my job. I am seriously thinking about giving it all up as I am so down about things that I am getting migraines, never had them before.

I have the feeling that I am being set up so the old nurse can came back as her new job is not going well.

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Well i can empathise, I had enough so Ive found a job in a local cafe, its my last day in the practice (worked here for 14yrs) on thursday.

P.S i love your profile pic!

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Sally Howe — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 18:03:03 GMT

I am feeling the same about my job. I am seriously thinking about giving it all up as I am so down about things that I am getting migraines, never had them before.

I have the feeling that I am being set up so the old nurse can came back as her new job is not going well.

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Dippy — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 18:42:12 GMT

Thanks everyone. Had an ok day today. Still feel very much like there's a "polite" but slightly false atmosphere but am just getting on with it being the normal me and coming home to my own life for the weekend. And believe me Sal, I AM thinking about Cyprus!

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Sal the 1st — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 16:00:20 GMT

chin up - and think about Cyprus

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loobylou — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 11:15:31 GMT

Im sorry you're having a bit of a rough time but glad you're feeling a bit more positive this morning. It sounds like you're dealing with the situation in a sensible manner, its all too easy to get irrational about things like this. I know its nice to be mates with those you work with but at the end of the day, like you said, they are only work colleagues. If you forge a special friendship with soemone you work with then I think thats a blessing.
I believe episodes like this are always going to occur when we are working in a predominately female environment, after all us girlies can be quite bitchy when we want to be! I know that we've had many episodes like this in my practice. You just have to get everything out in the open and hope it blows over.
Hope things go ok for you at work today and you have a restful weekend

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Mac Feather — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 09:21:30 GMT

and if you are like me and add wonky hormones to the mix and you have a captain paranoia wobbly cocktail!

its good though that you know the way youre feeling isnt the usual for you. i know how challenging the positive thinking thing is, i am often too quick to ditch it (usually coz of a captain paranoia wobbly cocktail)

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Maisy — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 07:55:21 GMT

Sorry to hear about what's been happening Dippy, it's not easy when you feel unhappy at work. At some point there will always be bickering between colleagues whether its because of something miscontrued or just personality differences. Its good that your boss is aware of the problem and is supporting you as this can make things worse if you think you're alone in this. Do you tend to get on with the person/s involved? Is an open talk with all concerned a possibility? It doesn't have to be formal but its good to allow people to put their point across without the risk of being shot down or hearing about things second hand.

In the meantime, try to sleep! Tiredness doesn't help and in a lot of ways it makes problems seem a lot worse.

Hope things get sorted out soon.

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Dippy — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 05:30:09 GMT

PS As for the distractions, I've been throwing myself into oragnising things all winter to distract me from the SAD feelings which has pretty much worked. Think this may also be why I'm extra tired at the mo cos I perhaps did a bit TOO much distraction and now don't have enough hours in my week for me! Oops.

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Dippy — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 05:27:46 GMT

Sorry Steph, didn't realise what you meant by the phrase! You don't need to tell me about positive thinking, I've been there, worn the t-shirt, preached to others etc. This is why it's so unlike me as I'm usually able to rise above petty stuff. and definitely have a live for today attitiude (which any of my friends will tell you) and know what's important in life (ie, if one person wants to waste all that negaitve energy moaning, picking fault etc, then it's their problem, not mine). See - I'm back to my old self this morning thinking about it. I think like several others said, everything seems worse at night and in the absence of sleep. I do have to say that I'm pooped this morning and definitely need to catch up on some z's over the weekend but at least it's Friday and the people who matter say they're pleased with my work. Thanks everyone for replying last night.

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Anonymous — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 01:21:09 GMT

If you think something is going to go wrong it will. it's easier said than done but try not to think about it and move on with positive pictures of how you want things to look and make them happen. Encouraging your coworkers to do the same and maybe even setting up distractions to help keep your minds off the problem.

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Dippy — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:46:21 GMT

Thanks for your replies/support. Am off to try and get a few hours jip before my alarm goes off in, erm... 4hrs 15mins!!!!!!!

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Mac Feather — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:43:40 GMT

Lack of sleep is a swine, kinda magnifies all the bad stuff whizzing round your head.

When im awake in the middle of the night the most random stuff preys on my mind.

I think in every place of work there are 'wonky' spells- usually having a good open chat can clear stuff up, can help clear up misunderstandings, things that were poorly communicated.

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Dippy — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:27:58 GMT

Not really sure what you mean Steph. Sorry if I'm being thick!

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Anonymous — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:24:21 GMT

i'm sorry you're having a hard time Dippy I hope it all settles down a bit soon. It's difficult but be careful not to set yourself up for self fufilling prophecies.

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Dippy — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:03:02 GMT

Thnaks for the hug!

I've been here before and logic tells me it will blow over. I think the thing which has uoset me most is that a lot of it is "he said this...", "she said that..." and today i tried to walk away from it and say that today is another day and as far as I'm concerned it's sorted but then looked up to fins someone I thought was a friend pulling faces at my reaction. Can't win I think and I'm determined not to get sucked in anymore (which I am guilty of on occasion I'm afraid, we're all human!) but I don't want to be quoted as one of the ones who said this, that and the other. It also hurt that if tittle tattle is to be believed (which I know I shouldn't but it's human nature to listen when someone tells you a colleague has made comments about what you are or aren't doing) I thought I got on well with everyone and somone I poured my heart out to is apparently the somone who has a problem with my actions. Then again, it could be the person who told me this who has made it into more than was ever meant. Either way, I know I shouldn't really care. Like I said, work are aware and dealing with things as best they can and hopefully if I keep refusing to discuss it other than at proper meetings about it, it will die down again. Like you say, a few days away (ie the weekend is coming up) may help. It's a bad time of year for me as I think the old SAD syndrome has finally reared its head, I feel over tired, over worked, run down, have just had a stinky cold and cough for 2wks and am in much need of the working holiday in the sun I'm going on in 3wks time (Cyprus fundraiser/voluntary work).

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albatross — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 23:55:12 GMT

sending you a big hug.

Not being able to sleep because you are going over and over the situation is making you more sensitive to the problems and less able to deal with them, which in turn is making you less likely to sleep - vicious circle. Do you know what works for you with breaking a sleepless night ? Alcohol, nytol, relaxing bath, soft music, night out with friends, doing some hobby which takes your mind off problems, even a sleeping tablet ??

It's great that work is dealing with the problem and want to sort it all out, that counts for a lot. The trouble is that it needs time to simmer down again, and for those people who were in the wrong to change, and for those who feel aggrieved to relax and learn to accept/trust everyone else again.

Maybe suggesting a follow up meeting, or team bonding session to iron out any more little niggles ?

Hope things improve soon, and they look brighter when you've finally got a good nights sleep.

Maybe a few days break away from work migth help ?