How to help a really shy nurse

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Selena Carnell — Sat, 06 Apr 2013 10:16:14 GMT

To be fair she did try but there were other issues, that I can't comment on a forum.

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Christina Wong — Sat, 06 Apr 2013 10:00:32 GMT

[quote user="Charley Struthers"]

you would have though it would have been picked up during her training and she could have worked on it before she qualified?

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Same thought. My shyness was caught quite early on then when I was doing reception part of portfolio I was forced to talk to every person who walked through the door (even delivery guys) and ask them how they are and how there day was.

But that is a shame that she couldn't over come it :(

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Charley83 — Tue, 02 Apr 2013 23:41:09 GMT

you would have though it would have been picked up during her training and she could have worked on it before she qualified? Mind you i,ve just noticed that she has been qualified for 2 years. Maybe not for her then.

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Sal the 1st — Tue, 02 Apr 2013 23:31:02 GMT

sorry to hear that I hope she finds her place

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Selena Carnell — Tue, 02 Apr 2013 21:32:17 GMT

Unfortunatley thing didn't work out in the end and we let her go at the end of her probabtion period.

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Arlo Guthrie — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 11:08:35 GMT

[quote user="Sal the 1st"] to being able to have a conversation with a former prime minister[/quote]

Which one? Do tell!

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Sal the 1st — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 23:35:22 GMT

its all a bit of a game but to me thats the best way to go through life, it does get results.

within 18mths of starting those courses I went from barely being able to get a word out to anybody (was even tongue tied with certain members of family) to being able to have a conversation with a former prime minister over a cup of coffee- so guess it worked well enough for me *. I just wish my tutor was still teaching

* should add with the exception of large groups of small children - I once had to do a school assembly to what I thought was going to be a class of 5-6yr olds which turned out to be not just a class but the whole year - now that was terrifying!

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Alison Clare Hickman — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 23:28:20 GMT

No subtley in my praise for ya Sal. That's AMAZING. You're amazing.

x x x Ali h

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Sal the 1st — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 22:49:14 GMT

NLP - definitely something we could work with

the easiest thing I can think of is something you could all do together one lunchtime or maybe on a nurses meeting and this has nothing to do with NLP ( well sort of ) everybody has something they would like to do better so do a skills swapshop. This doesnt have to be done as a formal, stale exercise it can equally be done as just a chat among friends

1 Get yourselves together and everybody has to say something they would like to do better or something they dont feel confident with

2 Present your issue to the group maybe make some bullet point notes so you dont forget anything that for you makes it so difficult.

3 think of a member either within your team or somebody you see that has all the skills you want in abundance. If its a member of the team let them know (because that will make them feel good too knowing there is something they are good at) and you can maybe ask them to share their skills. if its somebody from the outside just imagine yourself soaking up all their skills

4 next time you find yourself in a situation where you need those skills just pretend you are the person who 'gifted' you the necessary skills (do things the way you would imagine they would do it).

5 when its over just notice how differently you acted. How did it feel to be that other able , confident person? If it was what you wanted just keep up the act until it becomes second nature (fake it till you make it)

The beauty of doing this as a skills swapshop is that no one member feels singled out and everybody present knows that they arent alone having a point of weakness and that they have skills they can share - a lot can be gained from these group meetings but do make them into a bit of a game - making it serious is no fun at all and everybody learns more when they are enjoying themselves.

When I went on my first hypnotherapy course back in '94 the person taking the class said that I was possibly the most shy person he had ever met - I guess there are a few people who wish I still was but too late now there's no going back.

There is a quick fix for one person to use - an adaptation of my exam nerves exercise

For the exam nerves exercise I just get the student to pretend that they are the teacher and that the examiner is a particularly 'dense' student so for them to understand what you are wanting to 'teach' them you need to make everything ultra clear. It brings the examiner right down to size for the student ( have had a lot of good feedback from people using it so I am happy enough to say it works for a lot of people) I suppose for a client you could imagine you are training or talking to a student.

More than happy to discuss this as a PM if anybody wants to give it a go

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Alison Clare Hickman — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 22:46:00 GMT

Hello, I like the earlier suggestions proposed very much. My suggestion would be to search the internet for a suitable 'how to overcome shyness' and / or 'talking to people' site -Oh boy!There are hundreds!

Perhaps you can have a look together to see if there is anything she'd like to try? I became a bit overwhelmed by the variety on offer mainly as I don't know her and so what would be most appropriate...I wouldn't want to suggest the wrong thing...

Hope she discovers her voice, it's in there somewhere I am sure!

Ali h

Oh, just a thought... Sal the 1st; is this something NLP could help?

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

wendy scott — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 22:04:22 GMT

I found helping on reception very helpful when trying to become more confident in speaking to clients. This is essentially the front line and a lot of clients pass through there alone so perhaps some hours on there would help your RVN?

Hope you find something, shyness can be awful but it can be overcome given time and support

Wendy :)

Re: How to help a really shy nurse

Selena Carnell — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 19:58:07 GMT

I was really shy to, and still am to a certain extent but I have learnt ways to get round it.

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Mark Walsh — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 19:06:16 GMT

Hi, I used to be really shy with everyone but what changed things for me was being thrown in at the deep end with the clients. What helped me in particular was being in all the consults with the vets. Yes the vet did most of the talking but it was a great introduction to the ways of the various clients who used to come in. Seeing how the vets interact with the clients and build a rapport really showed me the way.

Nowadays I do nurse consults all the time even if I am not on consult duty I put myself forward for them, this is something I never thought I would be capable of.

Try to instil a bit of confidence in your RVN too, for a start she got the RVN qualification which in itself took hard work and dedication. All the best.