Ever wonder why you bother?

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

Sal the 1st — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 11:21:42 GMT

just to say there are some good bosses out there. - and a good boss if you talk about this reasonably should be able to tell you the areas that are causing concern and together maybe you can come up with solutions - just dont let this fester

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

Gillian Mostyn — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 22:06:52 GMT

[quote user="oconnoanan"] Unfortunately bosses never are interested and don't tend to hear the good stuff, and only seem to listen to the one in a million negative feedback issues...[/quote]

a little harsh......most of us worked as employees long enough to know how 'office politics' works! There is always the odd bad apple though,,,,

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

oconnoanan — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 20:28:39 GMT

I unfortunately worked for someone who was incapable of dealing with emotional issues so had no interest in feedback. Only ever got irate at the supposed negative feedback, which was generally due to clients' concern for their animals, rather than staff misdemeanors. And of course bosses never hear about client interaction beyond what goes on in the books, ie the PTS owner that a staff person calls to commiserate with when they weren't on duty when it happened, etc.

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

oconnoanan — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 20:22:37 GMT

for all the good you do building up relationships, its the satisfied people who don't need to make their opinions heard - its the one person who was having a bad day or who had reached the end of their rope with their animal's condition, and you are in wrong place wrong time - they are unfortunately the people who tend to be vocal and leave feedback - not all the lovelies who go away smiling after you help out them and their pets! Unfortunately bosses never are interested and don't tend to hear the good stuff, and only seem to listen to the one in a million negative feedback issues..... Try to address the issue and find out what instigated it so you can get to the bottom of it

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

Sal the 1st — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 18:56:27 GMT

[quote user="nin86"]

Hi KayDg,

I am this morning in a very similar position. Having just come back from a lovely week on holiday was taken to the office by my boss this morn who told me that 'lots of people' had come to her with similar issues. It seems very out the blue and i now feel like i cannot trust anyone i work with. People who i thought were my friends and confidants seem to have gone behind my back. Feel totally worthless and ashamed and now dont want to be here at all. I too thought i was good at my job, but this shock this morn ahs rattled my confidence and im questioning whether i even want to stay here now. I keep crying about it which is really annoying and feel like my every move is now going to be monitored. So i know how you feel. And im at a loss of how to deal with it apart from to keep myself to myeslf and just try even harder. :(

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try asking your boss to quantify the 'lots of people' - it might just be one or two. I had this at one place I worked, it made me very unhappy and distrustful for a very long time, in the finish I left. Dont leave it as long as I did to tackle this it can make you really miserable. I consider myself to be mostly a fair and reasonable person and I felt very sad that people who I had considered to be be good friends felt that for whatever reason they couldnt approach me directly.

It was only after I left that I found out it was actually only one person behind the whole thing - I am a firm believer in karma and if that person gets just a small taste of the misery she caused others............

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

BengalcatRVN — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 22:36:17 GMT

Can't say much, but hugs to you all xx

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

nin86 — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 12:30:10 GMT

Hi KayDg,

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

Charley83 — Sat, 03 Nov 2012 23:11:40 GMT

You bother because you want to be a good nurse and do what's best for the animals in your care.

I agree with the others - it is easy for things heard second hand to be taken out of context.

Have a quiet chat with your boss and let them know how you feel

Good luck

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

Alison Clare Hickman — Sat, 03 Nov 2012 21:42:39 GMT

I wholeheartedly agree with Sophie's wise words and guidance. Ask your boss for a private chat then speak up and respectfully ask him what was meant. You'll get to the bottom of it and then be able to sort it out.

Hugs, lots of them.

Chin up, chest out, onwards and upwards!

Ali

Re: Ever wonder why you bother?

Sophie Bedford RVN CertVNECC — Sat, 03 Nov 2012 09:11:51 GMT

Firstly I'm really sorry that you're feeling so down at the moment!

I think that sometimes it can be very easy for 2nd hand messages to be taken out of context and possibly not passed on in a constructive manner. If you really want to get to the bottom of it and nip it in the bud then the only person you can really think about speaking to is your boss who allegedly made these remarks originally.

From what you describe it sounds like you're fitting in with the rest of the team and clients well and getting on well with things so to make sure this doesn't disrupt your training or your opinion of your practice I think you should organise some time to speak to your boss in private.

Best of luck and hopefully it's all just been taken out of hand and isn't as bad as you first think x