Bullying

Re: Bullying

Mrs Dot Dot — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 21:12:55 GMT

Good Luck............

Re: Bullying

Caro Laithwaite VN — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 16:20:21 GMT

Good to hear Lisa, l need to update it mainly links wise need a kick up the kyber to do it will start tydying now l think.

Re: Bullying

Lisa Molyneaux — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 16:16:24 GMT

[quote user="jan"]

I decided I couldn't realisticly leave my job & I couldn't influence the bullys behaviour so I checked out a load of info on coping & sort of self help type stuff. My friend does some Cognitive Behavoural training or such (I may have the name wrong Sorry but he helped me a lot) & I have found that although I can't alter the way poeple treat me I can alter the way I react to it.

Don't get me wrong, I still get mad & cry sometimes but the seroius bullying has reduced probably because the person involved didn't get the rise out of me.

Good luck . I hope you get it sorted

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Hi all,

thak you all so much for the posts, have had a good think about things and really i cant leave but have decided the best way to approach this thing is just as Jan said, thankfully i havent had much dealings with the worm in question but in general my mood is lighter!! Have applied for a few jobs - nothing will prob come from them but its good to keep an eye out, im feeling good and enjoying it. Yup there will prob be times when i feel like screaming but i hope i will deal with things a bit better!

thank you everyone for the kind words, and Carol I had a look at your website and that has certainly helped too!!

Thanks!!

Re: Bullying

Fleabee99 — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 17:24:16 GMT

talk to her about it or leave if this is an option?

good luck x

Re: Bullying

Louise B — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 22:57:14 GMT

Hey Lisa, nothing really to add re: advice, but just wanted to say 'chin up' and give you a hug. I hope things get better for you! x

Re: Bullying

jan — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:13:32 GMT

Don't get me wrong, I still get mad & cry sometimes but the seroius bullying has reduced probably because the person involved didn't get the rise out of me.

Good luck . I hope you get it sorted

Re: Bullying

Lisa Molyneaux — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 16:15:02 GMT

oh you guys!!

thanks so much for the advice, i will have a look at your website Caro,

thanks again

Re: Bullying

Caro Laithwaite VN — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 15:55:11 GMT

Lisa my website for targets of bullying is http://www.lifeafteradultbullying.com/

I have advice up on how to deal with it, what to look for types employers and legal. There is also links to other sites as well. If you want to give me a shout feel free.

Re: Bullying

Nick Shackleton — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 14:44:01 GMT

Speak to Caro Laithwaite on here she knows a thing or two about bullying

Re: Bullying

Claire Cameron — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 14:32:35 GMT

call BVNA for legal advice if your a member, if not then call them anyway.

I've been in the same situation and the BVNA were brilliant, cant thank them enough xxxx