Work dilema - what can I do?

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Sandra Taylor RVN, MBVNA — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 20:10:18 GMT

Ahemm....... heather why are you not on my Msn?? pm me your addy

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Mac Feather — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 19:55:02 GMT

flick, give me a shout on msn/text/wotever whenever you are available

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vickyj — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 20:56:28 GMT

Aw poor you, so sorry to hear a colleague is so low. I dont really think I can offer any further suggestions other than to just reiterate some of the above great advice, so instead I will just try and sympathise and say you sound like a fantastic and dedicated nurse with justifiably high standards and a lovely sensitive person as well. And if this is the case then I'm sure there must be a practice out there in your new area waiting to snap you up and a great bunch of people that will make great friends they just dont know it yet! It's one thing to compromise in certain areas of the job, it's another to just drop good standards all together - I can only hope that some of your good habits may rub off on your colleagues.

Chin up cookie, it'll all work out at the right time.

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Mac Feather — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 08:48:08 GMT

Hi flick,

i know what u mean about moving and all that comes with it. its a big change all round.

On the work front id say rome wasnt built in a day, might take a while for things to change ,u got change moving in the last practice and it prob helped having nurses with the same point of view as u.it can be quite frustrating when people dont see ur point of view with regards to subjects close to ur heart. can u talk to the HVN/practice manager about it?

making new friends doesnt happen overnight either and i totally know what u mean when u say u want to make ur own friends. where we are its pretty much all people charlie knows. i have gone to art classes so i have met people but its not lead to meeting up away from the art class. it takes time and where i am its a village so they usually know who u r before u say anything!!!!!!!!!!! scarey! had someone come up to me the othder day n said oh ur the one starting a new job! u could have knocked me ver with a feather!

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Susan Jackson — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 00:53:56 GMT

Hi, i do know how you feel. i'm a bit of a travel bug though so i try to see the positives in moving. i like the excitement of finding my feet.

I'm at a practice that had those lax standards when i first arrived, but over time they became a TP practice and i'm an assessor and the standards had to be raised for the students. We still never go to the gold standard in the theatre as you did at your last position but the room is more sterile, clipping is done in another room and so are dirty ops. the vets currently wear gloves gowns and hats.

There's always room for improvement - discuss the standards with your IV and VNAC as they do have a lot in the say of how the practice trains the students and can help you to approach the practice principle regarding this. I know you don't want to cause a stirr but sometimes we just have to.

If you address the issues slowely one at a time, have a meeting with the nurses ask them how they feel - they're probably just doing what they've always done, discuss the implications and ask them for suggestions so they drive the change not you.

Good luck and stay positive in a few months you'll be feeling better.

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 21:05:41 GMT

What area do you live in it could be that some of the "reprobates and no goods" from this site live in your area and you could meet up.

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Maisy — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 17:12:03 GMT

I can sympathise as I also moved quite far from friends/family to do my current job and know it can be difficult.

I think sorting out your work issues first will help a lot, being unhappy at work generally makes you more unhappy at home too. Do you enjoy your practice overall? If not, look elsewhere. Despite the credit crunch there are still lots of VN jobs going, or even try a hand at locumming for now to see other practices and their ways of doing things. If leaving isn't an option can you speak to your Head Nurse about how you feel? Sometimes when people get set in their ways of doing things, nobody thinks of ways to improve. Maybe some new ideas might help your practice, so speak to the HVN and see what they suggest as well. Do you have any other areas at work that you are more interested in as you may be able to steer more towards these if possible?

Secondly, getting your own social life will hopefully make you feel happier and not as reliant on your partner. By that I mean you can still have seperate nights out (obv not all the time!) but by having friends that are 'yours' can help beat loneliness a lot. Have you any hobbies out of work that you could maybe join a club/evening class? What about work nights out?

Hope things start to improve.