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Katie Mansfield — Tue, 06 Mar 2012 20:41:35 GMT

I lost my Dad Xmas 2010. He had dementia and my mum had been talking in a very similar way to your's for a couple of years. They'd been married since 1961 and she was devastated they never made the 50 yr mark. When Dad passed I managed to get her to the doctor and he put her on antidepressants which really helped and she saw a councillor for a few months. She's much better now and is coping really well.

I really feel for you - glad your dad's feeling better, and all the best to your mom

K x

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Mark Hedberg — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 07:14:18 GMT

Fingers crossed anyway; not a fun situation. Best Wishes!

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StMongo — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 01:11:17 GMT

@max...sorry about your dad. that's a rough deal. glad to know your mom is getting through it (as are you). ((hugs))

@caro...message sent back to you

dad is doing better than he was last night. no trip to the hospital and he called this afternoon to let me know he was feeling better. I don't think he's going anywhere any time soon, so I'm not going to worry about what mom said too much. (of the two of them, mom is the one with the larger amount of health problems, so I would imagine that she would be the first to go anyway) however it happens, I will deal with it when the time comes. I just wanted to get the information out there so that it was off my mind and not hiding in some dark repressed corner waiting to spring at me when I least expected it.

thanks all for your ears! (or eyes I should say)

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StMongo — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 01:03:08 GMT

@max...sorry about your dad. that's a rough deal. glad to know your mom is getting through it (as are you). ((hugs))

@caro...message sent back to you

thanks all for your ears! (or eyes I should say)

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sat, 03 Mar 2012 21:09:59 GMT

St M message sent

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FINNIGAN — Sat, 03 Mar 2012 18:11:03 GMT

hi there, i lost my dad 4weeks ago, he was 88, bless him, my mum and dad had been married for 53 years so when he passed it was a dreadfull wrench for my mum, she is totally lost and very lonely without him, it is so sad now seeing her coping without him, we are all there to help with her loss, and ours, he had been ill for a few years, but u just think theyl always be there,

i justt wanted to say really, that mum used to say the same thing, "when he goes im going too", "i wont be far behind him" etc, well, she hasnt said those things again, and as every day passes she gets stronger, she will be ok, in time and will learn to cope without him too, so dont worry too much, i think ur mum just doing the same really, hope this helps a little with what u are going thru, sorry if its a little jumbled too, xx