Explain!!

Re: Explain!!

Tracy Windler RVN — Mon, 09 May 2011 10:52:05 GMT

Haha! I always do exactly the opposite to what my head is telling me to do! Head- "Do not text him, remain laid-back, casual, leave it a few hours/days before replying" Heart- "Why has't he replied??!! What did I do wrong?? Shall I text him again to see if he got the last msg? I'll turn on my message notifications to see if he received it....bla bla bla"

Sometimes the heart should follow the mind, sometimes the heart should tell the mind to "stay at home and stop interferring!" Edward Monkton, very bizarre, but funny crazy-person!

Re: Explain!!

FINNIGAN — Thu, 05 May 2011 08:15:31 GMT

well, not a bloody word, why did he do it what was the point, unless to see if he could get what he wanted, (which he didnt!) mayb thats why, but afraid i had to send a shitty text , made me feel better anyway lol

Re: Explain!!

nets — Tue, 03 May 2011 22:32:05 GMT

i love being a straight male nurse lol men dont understand women and a women dont men and thats why we fall-out and get on so well if you would like my input ( most women dont lol) try not to phone him to much ect as it comes across as needy, just give him time and if he does not get back in contact he is not worth it

Re: Explain!!

Susan Jackson — Tue, 03 May 2011 21:26:56 GMT

Clearly it's not how he should be treating you, whether it's blind ignorance or deliberate gutlessness, he's not the man for you.

I'm sure you've probably got one or two men interested, e-mail a few others keep the meetings casual the right one will make you feel like you're the best person in the whole world (apart from their mum). I'm not saying be slutty..... ...... i didn't want to sound like I was?!

Re: Explain!!

Tracy Windler RVN — Mon, 02 May 2011 22:03:34 GMT

I would really like to think there's an explaination for it and he is genuine, so, don't obsess and phone/text. (she says, knowing full well she would be sitting swearing at her phone, willing it to bleep, thinking of any stupid excuse to call!!)

But....like you, I've been on the receiving end of stuff like this, and its just beyond me! If I see someone a few times, show interest, but then decide I'm not into it, I will give an explanation and make it clear. Its a bloody awful thing to have to do, but its only fair to the other person. I suppose there are people of both sexes who behave like this, but it drives me mad!

I'm still hoping its the first scenario, though! Ever the optimist!

Re: Explain!!

FINNIGAN — Mon, 02 May 2011 21:47:44 GMT

thanks for the support guys, think ive been had for sure tho, just as i was starting to trust men a gain after 4 years of singletom, just knocked my trust right back again!!

Re: Explain!!

Mac Feather — Mon, 02 May 2011 20:33:18 GMT

There could be an explanation as to why he hasnt been in touch yet. Anyway I hope it works out the way you want it to :)

Re: Explain!!

Mac Feather — Mon, 02 May 2011 20:26:04 GMT

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thanks hon, just feel a real fool, as i really liked him, would just like to know really, if he doesnt want to see me again then y dont he have the balls to say!!

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You are not a fool thats for definite.

Men are a totally different species and I have no understanding of them whatsoever. One thing I will say is its maybe best to find out early on if hes interested or not before you become fond of him.

In my (jaundiced,cynical) opinion there are some very spineless,ball-less males out there- BUT I am aware Im talking as recently seperated woman so Im probably not much help!

Stay busy, dont put any plans on hold just incase he phones, just live your life the way you want.

Re: Explain!!

BengalcatRVN — Mon, 02 May 2011 20:06:21 GMT

[quote user="Dippy"]

That's the way my other half functions!

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Mine too! Men, they just don't get it!

Re: Explain!!

Dippy — Mon, 02 May 2011 19:42:17 GMT

In my experience, men can't think about more than one thing at a time and are pretty hopelss at planning ahead. is it possible that his folks are still there and that he might call later tonight or even tomorrow morning when he's done with them and thinks about what he's supposed to be doing next? That's the way my other half functions!

Re: Explain!!

Steph Worsley — Mon, 02 May 2011 19:32:16 GMT

dont worry about it hun, they are all pains in the posterior lol!!!

I have to say I do take the bull by the horns so to speak, if the guy starts seeming quieter than he had been etc then I will send a text asking if ok as he seems quiet, then if he either doesnt reply or still seems odd then I will ask if I have done something wrong or if he wants to leave seeing me and ask them to be honest, if after this they are still odd/not replying you cant have done any more and move on

Re: Explain!!

FINNIGAN — Mon, 02 May 2011 19:12:18 GMT

thanks hon, just feel a real fool, as i really liked him, would just like to know really, if he doesnt want to see me again then y dont he have the balls to say!!

Re: Explain!!

laurad — Mon, 02 May 2011 19:04:14 GMT

hiya, i don't think youv done anything wrong at all. but don't ring him again, if you have text him already leave it at that. He will be aware that you are due to meet so he should get in touch if he doesn't its his loss. try to occupy your time so you are not thinking about him. hope that helps