Hating my new job!

Re: Hating my new job!

Katie B — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 01:47:41 GMT

Decided just to get on with it and just work hard. At the end of the day I am starting college in September, so I just need to work towards that. If he is still stressing me out whilst I am at college then I will just look for something else. Just felt a bit miserable but with everything going on, moving in with boyfriends parents, losing our house. But decided to think positive and it will all work out. Booked my work experience day at my placement for September today. Monday 7th March so looking forward to meeting everyone at the practice. The head nurse is lovely. Funny that I was stressing really as had four practice offer me my placement so far.

Anyway thanks for the replies. You guys always know how to cheer me up and make me see straight!

Re: Hating my new job!

Susan Jackson — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 00:09:46 GMT

I'll be honest there's nothing that you can do about this. Before being a VN I used to waitress all the time and I was doing it full time. Picking on waitresses is something that seems to be comman place in the trade. I don't think it's right far from it but it's a bit like the army, you know you're goning to be shouted at.

Again it's not right and I know there are places where it doesn't happen but at high end retaurants and chains I know it happens. If you complain they'll probably say if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen. I heard that one so many times. Usually I followed it with two fingers. Some of it was banter in that way, but it can be competitive with big-headed people in charge.

Sorry not to be positive, no one should have to put up with it, but you will struggle to stop it from happening without you leaving your job.

Re: Hating my new job!

nets — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 23:11:26 GMT

yeah its true dont bring others into it but it helps if more than the 1 person complains as for court well you should NEVER have to feel like you are being bullied or intimidated by any one and nor should you have to give up work because of it as that is against the law

Re: Hating my new job!

Sal the 1st — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 22:55:25 GMT

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if its a chain then write a letter to the regional manager stating how you and others feel bullied at work he wont want to ignore a letter like that, as the last thing he wants in this climate is bad press and a court case

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Dont bring others into it - if they want to complain let them do it themselves - dont make yourself the 'spokesperson' for others it could go very very wrong if you do, and dont threaten bad press and court action if you are then reliant on this company for a reference.

How about just giving it a bit longer whilst looking for something else - its only been a short time and as you get more used to their system you may find things become a bit happier

Re: Hating my new job!

nets — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 22:49:35 GMT

Re: Hating my new job!

Tracy Windler RVN — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 14:35:45 GMT

Hi K,

I'm sorry after all you're going through that your having a crap time. Can I suggest a different angle, if you don't think you can tolerate his abuse? Obviously its no excuse and its just down-right bad people management, but, it is his business and it can't be easy running a business in the service industry in this current economic climate. So perhaps he is under an incredible amount of stress and is unacceptably taking it out on his staff (who probably aren't paid enough to take his crap!!

But it might become bearable if you think about this everytime he flies off the handle and just try to let it go over your head (I managed it for a year until I started biting back!)

Good luck xx

Re: Hating my new job!

Anonymous — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 12:17:13 GMT

In theory you shouldnt have to put up with a bully at work. If this is his general style rather than targeted bullying im not sure if there is anything you can do about it other than look for something else. I guess it depends how much you need the money and how easy it is to find another job in your area.

If he is always like that I guess in time you will get used to it, though really i dont see why you should have to, nobody is paid enough to be spoken to badly IMO!

sorry im not much help really am i!