Feeling out of my depth

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Siobhan Steven — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 22:33:03 GMT

Tried to edit all my terrible spellos but can't seem to get in!

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Siobhan Steven — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 22:27:22 GMT

I agree with everyone else's comments, I would like to add that maybe we sometimes think those around us expect us to know everything about everything, for example termanology. We get too proud, whether experienced, qualified or whatever to ask 'dumb questions', well we can't know everything,that's why there are specialists in our indusyrt and even the run for the books regularly! Added with our own individual circumstances, e.g a period of depression or someone influencial to us making a comment we take a certain way or whatever, we continue on a path of self doubt and unfulfillment. I sounds like the nice people you used to work with all that time ago have forgiven your indiscretion, I wonder if you just have a casual chat with them over a cuppa and tell them how your feeling, you may be surprised, because they probably think you are doing a great job. You are being hard on yourself and I'm sure someone with your experience and knowledge is a valuble employee. Just clear the air with your fellow workers, they will then know where you are at, they may have a couple of things they want to say, but its the only way to move forward. Be brave and good luck, you'll do great.

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Caro Laithwaite VN — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 19:20:41 GMT

I know a couple of people who couldn't work past 1am as they went into major depression, it is a recognised problem to do with body clocks.

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flow * — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 19:01:02 GMT

I also didnt realise how OOH would affect my depression and anxiety so much. which it does so I think its something I cant do which is quite tricky in the work we do. Has anyone else found this who does suffer?

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flow * — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 18:55:40 GMT

I am too in sort of a same situation. I started a new job 6weeks ago- my first job after qualifing. I have been nursing for 3 years so not as long as you and not as many years of experience- which counts for alot I feel in my mind. I feel totally out of my deph and I have questions my career as a nurse. I suffer from depression and anxiety attacks and have spent these 6 weeks at a very low place. I struggle with terminology and this knocks my confidence, Im good at the general running of a practice, but struggle and doubt myself when it comes to things out of the norm I would say. Its a hard one I feel that things arent done to what I would like and I feel that this has knocked me out of my comfort zone too. From day one I feel I didnt have a good feel and sometimes think that a gut instinct tells it all. Now my question is do I stick it out and be very low and spend my nights in tears/arguing with my partner which seems to be the norm at the moment or look around for something else. Iv come to a decision I still want to nurse but Im so nervous and confidence is low.

your not on your own hon. What ever happens I hope it works out for you. It is true people dream to nurse and we are lucky but it is emotional hard sometimes.

good luck xx

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PaperTiger — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 11:24:48 GMT

Thanks guys, its really reassuring that others have been in same boat. Think it was a particularly rough week on the whole as things are settling down now. Thanks again for the support!x

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Phrin Vernon RVN — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 21:06:57 GMT

The last two posts have more or less summed up what I was going to say - please don't be so hard on yourself.

You have only been there a month, as as Mrs Mac said, coming back to an old workplace is always hard - especially if you left on bad terms previously - I've been in that situation before too, and you do tend to question and push yourself more than you would normally.

You have nothing to prove - you are obviously a good nurse, and have tons of experience from locumming.

Easier said than done, but try to relax and just enjoy the job - thinking of you also, and congrats on the new job (albeit a month late)

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Mac Feather — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 21:00:15 GMT

I think we all go through spells of feeling out of our depth so you are not alone in that.

You have to give yourself a pat on the back for returning to your old work place. It must be very strange to be back in a building you worked in where the faces and routines have changed. That in itself cant be the easiest thing in the world and I can see that wouldnt help you feeling unsettled and out of your depth.

I know its not the same but when I got a Head VN job I felt very much on my own and out of my depth,and its a horrible feeling.

I think it does take a while to settle into a new work environment, try not to be so hard on yourself. Remember all the experience you have acquired through your locum work etc.

Keep your chin up, thinking of you. x

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Katie B — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 19:24:28 GMT

This isn't a pointless post, it seems to me that you may have lost your confidence in regards to whether you can do the job or not. You can, you have been working for the past 8 years and it sounds like your still dwelling on the fact that you made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes and you need to sit back and realise how far you have come since then. You have learnt from it, so move on and forgive yourself. Do you really think that they would have employed you if they thought you couldn't do the job? And they most proberly had plenty of people apply for the position. They chose you for a reason. They know you can do the job but in order for you to feel better you have to stop thinking about the past and realise how good you are. I am a person who suffers low confidence and believe me sometimes you just need to put the past behind you and move on. It's only then that you can truely gain happiness. Is there anyone who you can speak to in regards to how your feeling? The head nurse maybe? You need someone to let you know your doing well and that way you can start to have faith in yourself again. You are doing a job, that is a dream for many people on here. So please stop doubting yourself and start believing in who you are and what a fabulous job you have. You aren't crap at your job, you got this job because you are bright and the practise believe in you as a person and as a Vet Nurse. So forgive your mistake and move on. None of us are perfect and we have all done things we aren't proud of. So chin up girl, look in the mirror and see the reflection of someone who is talented, stunning and a confident woman! Hope this helps.