Soul searching....

Re: Soul searching....

Dippy — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 14:22:34 GMT

I totally get where you're coming from as I've felt like this for years and have changed house, job and various other things so many times trying to find that sense of inner peace and fulfillment. I have now finally found it although sadly am not in a position to do as much about it as I'd like (they say money can't buy happiness but it can certainly stop you from doing certain things!) I am currently doing little bits with the things I have realise make me feel truly fulfilled and hope one day to be able to devote more time to them. For me, those things have been both spiritual events and exploring my own belief system/religious beliefs (and what I've come up with doesn't fit into any box in particular but I know exactly what I'm about now and am much more at one with myself) and devoting myself to overseas animal charity work which is one of the very few times I feel truly like I'm doing what I was meant to do, despite all the good I contribute to ona daily basis at work here, it's just not the same for me personally. I think it's about more than just the doing good part though as I've always been a wanderer, bit of a free spirit and feel very claustrophobic in life at times and would love to travel more and experience other cultures. I've done a fair bit but again, it always comes back to money and ties at home. My mum jokes that I must have Romany blood in me as I'm never in one place for long and if I could find a rucksack big enough to store my entire life in, I think I probably would be quite happy to just bumble along and go with the flow... Sadly over the years this has made for a lot of feeling unsettled, a lot of strain on relationships thinking I was searching for more from someone else when what I was really searching for was inside me all along.

Re: Soul searching....

Anonymous — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 14:09:47 GMT

If we were happy - all our needs met and nothing to worry about - then I think the up shot would be boredom. I think as human beings an elment of restlesness is a good thing as it motivates you to search out new people/ career changes etc. Don't beat yourself up for it, embrace it:)

As for the children thing - from experience having children can provide a huge sense of fulfillment.

Just a thought:)

Re: Soul searching....

Mac Feather — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 14:46:30 GMT

I reckon maybe we all feel like that from time to time. Personally speaking my hormones rattle me somewhat and lower my mood and I get negative and focus on what I havent got rather than what I do have.

I try to remind myself that it will pass and that life is full of peaks and troughs. Sometimes you have to go through dark times to appreciate the light.

Hope this helps a wee bit. xx

Re: Soul searching....

Sandra Taylor RVN, MBVNA — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 19:18:06 GMT

Out of interest.... do you or did you feel like something was missing when you were not so settled as you are now?

The reason I ask is, ...now dont loose me on this, but maybe the thing that is missing is the unhappiness? just a thought, as you have clearly been through a lot, and now that you are more settled you are unsure of where this void has come from, and what you need to fill it!

there that was my little bit of psychology fro the day! i am probably barking up the wrong tree, or just barking

Have a break and just go with the flow, stop searching and see if it makes a difference

Re: Soul searching....

Emma Purnell — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 18:44:53 GMT

I am not sure if I should be expressing/admitting this, but I feel the same. I am engaged, have a house, job, the lot, but there is a huge gap.

I have thought this over a million times and I am not sure if I am just asking too much - I am not saying this is the case for you - but I wonder sometimes if I just want too much. Should we really be happy all the time or is this just what people want us to think? Is there a perfect life, a perfect feeling, or is this missing something normal?

I am not sure if I help or not here!!