Interview on Thursday!!!!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:35:23 GMT

[quote user="sal the 1st"]

I had a similar difficulty with my last place,was seriously stressed at the prospect of handing in my notice. I handed in my notice in the morning and worked the rest of the day. The next day I was signed off with severe depression. In hindsight I should maybe have seen the doctor before handing in my notice - but it probably wouldnt have made that much difference, in my heart of hearts I knew I couldnt go on. I dont regret leaving nursing. Those last few weeks have left me feeling so bitter.

Good Luck in your new job

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Sal, those are words of wisdom for sure!! I have on a lot of occasions thought of leaving the profession for various reasons, but that time is not finally here yet as I know I would regret leaving nursing!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:33:46 GMT

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I'm too scared now.

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Button, I am sorry I wasnt around when you replied. Was on a quick lunch then had to get back to work. Pleased to hear you have finally done the deed though!! Have a little drink to yourself now you can finally relax!!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Sal the 1st — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:18:52 GMT

Good Luck in your new job

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Vicky RVN — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:54:39 GMT

Oh yeah meant to say, i know how you feel about finding it hard to give in your notice...i'm afraid i majorly wimped out when i gave in my notice at my previous practice...just gave my boss the letter at the end of the day and left Was very wimpish of me, but i found him very hard to talk to...never really had a proper conversation with him in the 8 months i worked there!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Vicky RVN — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:48:24 GMT

I have just read through this thread, not seen it before.

I want to say CONGRATULATIONS on getting the job, sounds like you are going to be a fab nurse and sounds like your new practice are going to treat you in the way you should be treated...like a human being not a piece of s**t on the bottom of their shoe! Glad you aren't going back in to your old place now, you can relax and enjoy your new job. Well done

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:42:44 GMT

[quote user="Button"]

Yeah I start on Saturday

I know, truly pathetic of him. He ain't getting the keys or uniform until I get the rest of my pay though.....

I am soooooo relieved - I feel like I can actually breathe properly now

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Now, doesnt it feel so much better?? Well done!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

hissycat — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:40:05 GMT

Good! you stick up for yourself! I shall be in work too on Saturday, I shall send some good vibes your way!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:34:37 GMT

Yeah I start on Saturday

I know, truly pathetic of him. He ain't getting the keys or uniform until I get the rest of my pay though.....

I am soooooo relieved - I feel like I can actually breathe properly now

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

hissycat — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:25:50 GMT

Sigh. Sounds like he knew you were thinking of not going back so tried to get in there first by saying you'd come to the end of your nonexistent contract! very mature... will you start earlier in your new job now?

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:04:22 GMT

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa. I called him:

"As you've come to the end of your contract we've decided that we should just call it a day so you no longer need to come back in. We would be grateful if you could bring in your uniform and keys or even get someone else to do it for you"

Umm.... what contract....? How peculiar. He is an odd little man.

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

hissycat — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 15:57:53 GMT

I want to phone him for you! Tell him where to go!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 14:16:46 GMT

I'm too scared now.

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 14:10:13 GMT

Button, just phone him now - don't wait any longer, what good will it do you?

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 13:33:15 GMT

Oh dear. He's left me a message as I didn't have my phone on "I need to speak to you as a matter of urgency before you contemplate coming back in to work"

What does that mean? I will call him later but am a bit confused. Bit of a weird message to leave for someone who's off sick....

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

hissycat — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 05:53:45 GMT

I will be very happy for you when the whole thing with your current practice is over! I have been off work in the past with stress induced gastritis and it is really horrible, though my problems were (are!) rota related, most of my colleagues were helpful and concerned so I can't imagine how horrible it must be to have people having a go all the time. I think sometimes people can wear you down so much you get too scared to take any action. Personally I think i would have walked, but if you really need the money I suppose you are a bit stuck. Just think you will be out of there soon, the time will fly. At least you can hold your head up high when you walk out the door for the last time! picture that moment... then hopefully in time we will see a more confident, assertive button

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:49:50 GMT

I will answer the phone, I don't however know what I will say to him. It will be awkward but I have to talk to him, there's no way around it unfortunately.

I am so nervous and scared by him that I had to ask my boyfrend to listen to the answerphone message. I couldn't even listen!

Fingers crossed. Will try and sleep at some point tonight, if my brain stops going over and over work issues - arghhhhh

Thanks for all of your advice guys x

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 22:26:43 GMT

I agree with Maisy, what she said is so true!

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Maisy — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 22:13:36 GMT

I agree-answer the phone and discuss it. He cannot make you go into work and like you mentioned your new practice knows about the issues you've got. If your boss bad-mouths you, then any clients with an ounce of sense will realise how unprofessional and bitter this sounds and will probably take no notice of whats being said.

Otherwise its back to work as normal until you work your notice and carry on making yourself ill

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 22:11:58 GMT

[quote user="SaskiaVN"]

The best thing you can do is answer that phone when it rings. If you feel like chatting to him over the phone, it will be a lot easier for you. You can meet him face to face for a proper chat but speaking on the phone first will break the ice so to speak.

Good luck, I will be thinking of you as will everyone here I am sure. I am normally off work on a Tuesday but tomorrow I am working, however, I can pm you my mobile if you want to have a chat? Just let me know.

Chin up xxx

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Thanks Saskia, appreciated. Got a headache, need to try and stop thinking about it but it's hard. My boyfriend agrees with you about talking to my boss if he calls, I'm just scared. He also said I need to give myself a break and stop thinking about it, again this is hard. I agree but I'm such a worrier.

Will keep you posted tomorrow x

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:42:39 GMT

Chin up xxx

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:38:06 GMT

I would love to not go back now - I would have the biggest sigh of relief if that was the case. Only trouble is I'd have to talk to him and tell him this. And the thought petrifies me.

I hate the thought of people disliking me and they would even more. They wouldn't hesitate in bad mouthing me to the clients etc and I find that really upsetting. People will ask where I am (as it's so small they would notice that I'd gone) and they will say horrible things about me

I will see how I feel tomorrow... but things tell me it'll be the same. He's going to try calling me again tomorrow, that thought is so scary.

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:19:29 GMT

Yeah, that makes sense!

You come across as a very decent, sensitive and trustworthy person. The sensitive bit is most likely why you are feeling bad. I am a sensitive person also so I know how it feels.

BUT at the end of the day, you are not happy there, it is making you feel physically and emotionally unwell, they have held important information from you, the nurse is a bitch, she has done nothing but criticise your new job from the start, the d***head drove past you in the rain, need I go on???? They are the reason you feel the way you do. Imagine the sigh of relief you would feel if you never had to work there again?

Button - its time to start thinking of number 1 - YOU. Forget all about them and dont go back. Its not your problem, its theirs.

Please take my advice

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Maisy — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:17:32 GMT

[quote user="Button"]

It just feels really wrong and dishonest of me doing it this way

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Not really, your boss isn't exactly brimming with honesty either.....

Your new practice knows of your situation with your boss and they are in agreement with you. Why not think about your health, see how you go over the next couple of days and then start your new job? You have nothing to lose this way, work isn't meant to make yourself ill over.

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Anonymous — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:14:16 GMT

My future employer knows how it's been for me and said that if I didn't go back I could start with them immediately.

I worked for a day with them on Saturday and found out a couple of things that my current boss was (or has not) been doing that is not right at all so my future employer does not like him very much (they know him any way). Did that make sense? I could probably get him struck off....

It just feels really wrong and dishonest of me doing it this way

Re: Interview on Thursday!!!!

Saskia Quinn — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:10:34 GMT

Button,

you are not pulling a sickie - the way you feel and the fact you have gastritis brought on by the stress of it all has been caused by your employer and that horrible nurse.

I wish you would take my advice and dont go back. Now that your are off sick, why dont you keep it that way and never go back? If you are worried about your new employer fining out, as I said before, just give them a call and tell them. I am sure they will understand.